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One of my favorite college professors had a theory of three human flaws. Prof. Lawrence asked us to watch for these flaws in the news and when we got into the workforce. His hope was that we would recognize them and do what we could to counter balance them in the World. They are:

  1. Greed
  2. Incompetence
  3. Tendency to Abuse Power

As a lightworker, abuse of power is a pattern I see clients suffering at the hands of every day. From the soul perspective, your energy — what you focus it on and how you exchange it — is your power. You can trade our energy for a pay check or collaborative exchanges in relationship. When the energy is taken without an equal exchange, it is abuse of power.

There is a lot that drives the tendency to abuse power. This plays out dramatically on the World screen. People’s fear that they don’t have enough, competition for resources. Desire to be in control. Ego’s need to dominate. Belief in being better than or more entitled than someone else.

Beneath the behaviors and beliefs is an energetic vacuum. What allows me to have compassion or at least neutrality for a person who abuses power at home or in the workplace – a taker, a user or energy vampire – is the awareness that they don’t know how to generate their own energy. Compassion doesn’t equate to tolerance.

Protecting yourself from energy abuse is the most important thing you can do to stay aligned with your soul path. Most common and subtly are the energy hooks and vampirism that happen between the closest people in your life: friends, life-partners, family members, co-workers.

When you have an energy leak or full on vampire impacting you, it undermines your ability to manifest your intentions into a physical form. You may have a great idea, feel its creative energy but then it doesn’t have enough oomph behind it to get traction.

Abuse of power can leave you feeling exhausted, confused, even guilty for saying no. So how do you stop these energy losses and re-balance your life?

Regular practices that set your energy field / aura with healthy boundaries, make you less susceptible to abuse of power. Use your intuition and meditation tools. Being conscious of your soul contracts with the people in your life and updating them to “only available for equal energy exchange” is a step in healing abusive relationships. Clear generational patterns, and programs that allow the abuse of power to hook you. And maybe most important, fill your energetic cup through practices that don’t take energy from others.

Oddly some of the most powerful people in the world are hooking into those around them and using that energy to be powerful. When energy is voluntary given it can support co-creation, a cause or belief system. This is free will. When the energy is being hooked, vampired or taken through dishonest means it is an abuse of power.

Pay attention to where you feel more energy going out that is offered in relationships. Trust your intuition to show you where energy is out of balance, even in the broader world community. Commit to the practices that support your energy exchanges staying in balance.

October 9 I’m starting a LIVE practice group. In our first session I’ll teach a tool for reclaiming your power and we’ll practice it together.

Join HERE

Things have been getting pretty wacky in the world, asking you to trust your intuition more than ever. Do you feel a bit dazed by the blatant lies bouncing around as the new norm?

Partial information, misleading statements and fear-based perspectives are twisting reality. And not in a good way. How can you listen to your intuition when you are constantly navigating messages that tell you to doubt it? You may find yourself wanting to tune it out or feel outraged and exhausted.

If you’ve been feeling uncertainty or doubt about an action you want to take, a decision, or whether something you’ve heard is the truth, it is likely that someone else’s energy is in your space – whether it be an individual or the collective energy.

To keep your inner-guidance from falling prey to the chronic societal conditioning or manipulation it encounters over and over again, it is important to clear other people’s ideas and energy out of your space. Highly sensitive people need to do this often.

Here are THREE quick steps you can take to stay tuned-in instead of tuned-out. You will increase your intuition through meditations like these and feel more clarity too:

ONE) Clear out collective fear, negativity and victim-hood from your energy field. Visualize a vacuum with its dirt bag /canister outside of your aura bubble.  See the vacuum tube suction up all the negative collective energy in your body – energy from the world, your country, your community, your school/job, your household. Once the bag is full, take it out of the canister and send it to Source for a healing.

TWO) Reclaim your center-of-head from everyone– hanging out in there who wants to “see what you see” OR holding telepathic conversations with you OR demanding your attention OR controlling your options. Whether it’s a boss, loved one or ex, they need to give you space. Imagine their energy going into a bubble. Send that bubble back to them and pop it. This makes room in your sixth chakra where you have intuitive insights.

THREE) Call your energy back to you! YOU ARE YOUR BEST MEDICINE! Intend that your energy – by that I mean, your souls essence and your attention – comes back to you from wherever it has been, with a person, place, project, in the past or in the future. Imagine it flowing back to you like a river of sweet golden honey and filling you up, from the top of your head to the tips of your toes.

Can you trust your intuition when it’s under the influence of the fears or needs of other people? Not so much. So do a visualization to clear others energy out of your space and fill-up with your soul’s essence. Then you are able to see clearly, trust your intuition and take the pathway that is in your soul’s highest good.

Over and over life presents us with unexpected opportunities that stretch our comfort zone. There really is no such thing as getting comfortable unless you avoid contact with others. Even nature brings experiences that affect your energy and require shifts to plans. Ultimately, we all desire to stay centered and be at peace regardless of what happens in our life.

From the energy perspective, you have peace when you have graceful boundaries with the people in your life, feel grounded, refill your energy regularly and have balanced exchanges with others.

Sounds simple, but as far as I can tell it’s the most complex part of being a soul in a human body.

People want more than you have to give at times. Their fears or trauma get triggered, so they grab on to you to ground and regain their balance. It can really throw you off. They make mistakes that impact you. Or you make a choice that has unexpected consequences. Having something unexpected rock your world, including someone who brings destabilizing energy, is like getting caught in a storm.

You’re on a hike in the mountains on a sunny day. You feel at peace.

Thunder rolls in the distance. Your inner-voice says, “I know this one. Got it. No problem.”

Lightening ripples across looming dark clouds you see beyond blue sky. Do you feel at peace now?

Hair stands up on your arms as the storm moves your way. Your inner-voice is like, “Maybe it’s a good idea for me to change my plan, turn around, move to lower ground, seek shelter?”

Do you feel at peace now?

Lightening is hitting the high points. Torrents of rain are pelting down. You didn’t bring a rain jacket. Your inner-voice is running through all sorts of possible bad scenarios laced with criticism, “You know better. You didn’t tell anyone where you were hiking. You didn’t come prepared. Your intuition nudged you to turn around. If you had, you would be back to your car by now.”

Your drenched, tiny hail pelting your skin. Thankfully the lightening has passed. But not the self-critical voice. Your energy was thrown off. How do you regain your peace?

Life happens. Your peace will be tested over and over again. Sometimes it will be due to a choice you made that has consequences you didn’t expect. Sometimes it will be others energy that impacts you and requires some work to reclaim your peace.

When something is stealing your peace, its most important to return to the basics (see diagram).

  1. Visualize your grounding cord. A fresh one, deeply rooted in the earth. (RED ARROW)
  2. Reset your aura bubble. This is me. That is you. We can love each other, have compassion, help each other and NOT be IN each other’s bubble. (BLUE CIRCLE)
  3. Call your energy back to you. Imagine it coming from the person or situation that your peace was lost to, pouring back in to fill you up through the top of your head. (GOLD SUN & ARROW)

The tests to your peace will come. That’s a guarantee. But you always have the power to reclaim your peace by reclaiming your energy.

Who taught you what boundaries were allowed or expected? It’s not a subject taught in kindergarten or elementary school. Boundaries are demonstrated socially. They are both subtle and exacting.

The greatest cause of suffering I see in sensitive people originated from a lack of clear boundaries.

Your parents may have told you “no,” punished, shamed or discouraged you from activities that made them feel uncomfortable, crossed their boundaries. They may have had no boundaries or a lot or rules about touch, words, privacy, food, allowed emotions, money, how to dress, nudity, topics of conversation, personal space, time, performance at school, in sports or work.

The rules you learned at home may not have worked at school or with your friends who had different boundaries.

You need healthy boundaries. When another person shows you their boundaries you know how to relate with them. They create a clear container for understanding your world.

When the adults around you growing up don’t have boundaries, don’t honor your boundaries or change the rules frequently, it creates a state of heightened alert. The good news is that you likely have stronger than average intuition. The bad news is you have it because you didn’t feel safe and had to intuitively read the world around you all the time, to navigate the shifting boundaries.

Intuitively tracking those around you all the time is exhausting and confusing. It’s exhausting because you don’t get to relax into a sense of safety. It’s confusing because often the energy or feelings you sense in those around you gets misinterpreted as your own experience. Keeping your psychic antenna open all the time blurs the boundaries.

For example, you work at an office and have a passive aggressive co-worker. You find yourself feeling angry a lot but can’t say why. When you leave work, the anger subsides. Because you are immersed in their energy with no boundaries it feels like your own anger. Reading the mood of those around you is a skill learned in order to camouflage and create a safe space in an environment with unpredictable boundaries.

As child in an environment of unclear or absent boundaries reading others to protect yourself and prevent harm is essential to survival. But to read someone this way is to get in their psychic space. Over time this survival skill creates suffering because you feel everything around you. So how do you learn to reset your psychic boundaries?

Resetting your boundaries so intuition can work for you rather then against you requires consciously owning your energy field on a regular basis. Practicing simple active meditation tools is what works for me. A series of visualizations that create healthy energy boundaries can be applied on a walk or in a conference room. In the simplest form, you notice your grounding cord, set your aura bubble, put up protection roses and call your energy back to yourself.

To feel more of you and less of those around you isn’t hard-hearted. You still have compassion and can even help others more when you aren’t matching their emotional state.

If you are interested in cultivating these skills Active Meditation training can be purchased HERE.

Meditation is a pathway to strong intuition and inner-peace. You don’t need to sit with your eyes closed to meditate. I’m an active person and need to move my body. Walking meditation is the way that I have been able to more consistently commit to meditation and insure I regularly set my energy to my truth. In this video I share with you the steps I take to clear out and reset my energy field with walking meditation.

You have intuition. Ultimately it’s a matter of whether you notice it or not. When your intuition is doing its job it keeps life flowing in synchronistic ways. Divinely timed opportunities show up and you say “yes”. You’re invited to do something that sounds amazing but you don’t feel right about it and decline. Your intuition is informing your yes and no. You’re in the flow.

But that’s not always the case. You are culturally conditioned to ignore and deny your intuition. It starts in the earliest moments when you point something out to your parents that they are uncomfortable seeing and they tell you it is not true. When you deny your intuition, life doesn’t feel so easy. You run into roadblocks, bump into things, have to redo what you already thought was done, and find yourself suffering from painful experiences you could have avoided.

The great news is that intuition is a skill you can reclaim and strengthen. It never went away. It simply has been hidden from your view. There are 3 keys to improving access to your intuition.

The first key is to consciously listen. In order to hear your inner-voice you have to press pause on your mind’s analysis of the situation. It sounds simple but it is one of the most challenging aspects of being human, to get the mind out of the way of intuitive information.

Your intuition speaks to you is through body sensations. It lets you know if something is the best course for you or not with feelings such as tightness in your belly, hair standing up on your neck, tension relief, a relaxation of the shoulders or jaw.

To focus your listening, directly ask yourself a question and notice which response causes you to feel a deep peace. You may have butterflies about the decision if it challenges how people see you or receiving outside approval. But beneath that edge you will know it is right for you.

The second key to improving access to your intuition is to clear out conditioning from society, family and past experiences. These influences distort your intuition. They are static interfering with clearly hearing your inner-voice, a combination of the beliefs, needs and fears of those around you. This includes your past experiences that may or may not have truth in the present moment.

To clear out your conditioning follow the guidance in my blog post Make Room For What You Want.

The third key is to overcome your doubt. Doubt undermines intuition. It can be as intense as triggering a trauma like experience that causes you to go blank, not knowing what to do next. Or it can be as unconscious as ignoring your gut feeling to take an alternate route home only to get stuck in a traffic jam.

The way to overcome doubt is to practice acting on your intuition. Maybe you pull up the route home on your phone and look at the traffic to validate your intuitive hit. Or maybe you courageously say what you sense to a friend and discover you are right. The more you practice, the more validation you will receive. Validation will help you gain confidence and clarity.

These 3 simple keys: listen, clear out conditioning and overcome doubt, will help you unlock the door to your intuitive ability. As you trust your intuition life becomes more synchronistic and you will experience less suffering from taking actions that were not true to you.

Spiritual Tests

Natalie —  January 29, 2015 — Leave a comment

Life tests us when we least expect it. We can get metaphysical and see it as an opportunity for spiritual growth, yet tests challenge us.  They feel uncomfortable, stressful, confusing and even painful, they may bring up our anger or disappointed. Tests are asking us, or forcing us, to change. It can be as subtle as a shift of our thought patterns or as explicit as how we live every day.

Our physical body, mind, emotions and soul are always unconsciously striving for a state of alignment with each other.  An illness may cause our mind to struggle with our body’s lack of cooperation.  The death of a loved one may cause our heart to question the body’s purpose as we are left behind while their soul has moved on.

In the midst of being tested, there is a temptation and a tendency to suppress discomfort.  But our physical and emotional discomforts are indicators. They will guide us through life’s tests, if we listen. They bring awareness to our combined physical, mental and spiritual state of being.

To lessen the discomfort without just postponing it, we have to pause to listen to our intuition. The act of stilling the mind through meditation, tuning into our breath (body) and listening to our soul, may initially draw our attention to the discomfort. But with a bit of commitment to breathing through the edgy space, it will reduce our suffering.

When we listen to our inner-guidance it shows us what we need in order to walk through the fire of life’s test. It may tell us it is time to step away from a relationship or job. It may point out that it is time to commit to our health by changing the way we eat or to taking regular time for our creativity.

Meditation is deep listening.  By listening we are consciously participating in alignment of our physical experience with our souls intention.  This alone reduces stress regardless of life test we are experiencing.

The beauty is that we don’t have to stop living to listen.  As Thich Nhat Hanh says we can invite inner-peace through consciously breathing in and out no matter where we are or what challenge we are facing.  It is that simple.

The mind does an excellent job of balancing our bank account and other logical tasks. But when it looks to translate our emotional experiences or the more mystical intuitive “knowing”, it gets stuck.  Over analyzing is the number one block to our intuition. We mentally stack the bits of and pieces of our experiences next to each other looking for an answer.

There’s no winning when the mind tries to figure out what we “sense” intuitively using evidence, logic and proof. Or if it tries to figure out what we can’t know, what hasn’t happened yet or is not ready to be revealed.

The monkey mind’s searching, busy; spinning in circles on the same unanswerable thought is merely a distraction from listening. Our inner guidance can only be accessed when we stop trying to figure it out and listen.

I’m never at peace when my mind is stuck thinking and rethinking on a topic, trying to figure out what it means and how that meaning applies to my life or what I need to do in response. The mental effort gets in the way of listening and trusting the inner-knowing.

Recently I’ve been practicing “living in the question” by asking my inner-guidance a question with a commitment to not “think” about the answer.  I simply set the intention that I’m listening for an answer and put it into the universal flow to percolate.

Using this practice, I find that answers to my deepest questions don’t jump into my mind like a thought. They come through experiences life offers me that I feel a “yes” to.  And as I say yes, I realize, “Hey, this is the answer to the question I sent out to the universe.”

The wonderful thing about the mind is that we get to both benefit from its skill and direct it. To turn off the monkey mind we need to remind ourselves when there is no answer we can “think up.” The answer exists but it’s not one the analytical mind is responsible for deriving.

Here’s an experiement to practice release of the monkey mind, write down whatever your mind is churning on and if you have any possible answers already milling in your head, tell yourself that there are possibilities you can’t even imagine.  Then ask your inner-guidance to show you and set the question aside while you go about your life. This is where the magic comes. By releasing the attachment to “figuring it out” with your mind you are allowing your intuition to inform you.

Please comment and let me know what happens!

You might think your family didn’t teach you much about your intuition but they did.  Whether they taught you to doubt your gut feelings by telling you that you were wrong when you voiced something you sensed but couldn’t prove, or they simply were living examples of listening to their inner-voice; they taught you something.

One way I was taught to tune-in to my intuition by my family was through working with my dad on the ranch. There were always projects to do. The list was never ending with land, livestock, buildings, fences and equipment to keep in order.  Dad would often have me and my brother help him when he was working on a project. He did most of the heavy lifting and our job was to keep him in his efficiency-zone by handing him whatever tool he needed next, holding a board in place or plugging in a power tool.

While he taught us how to do things along the way and verbally asked us to hand him the next tool or piece of material he needed early on, over time we were expected to know what he needed next, to read his mind and be one step ahead of him as he worked.  This was also the way his dad, our grandfather worked.  My brother and I learned to either be savvy enough to know what was next in the project or intuit their next step.

We were experiencing non-verbal communication.  As the helpers we tuned-in to what was happening and kept track of the fast pace that activity was moving. We not only were tuned-in to whether a next tool was needed but if it was time to get dad a drink of water.

Practicing awareness of another through observation and intuitively tuning-in to foresee what they may need next was one of the languages of our family.  In the full throws of a project if we weren’t tuned-in it could mean someone got hurt or the rhythm or efficiency was broken. It also insured we didn’t get scolded for being lazy and not doing our part.

Reading or empathically feeling others emotions and translating that into what to do for them is one of the tricky areas where we can either be affirmed or taught to doubt ourselves in a family.  The nice thing about intuiting the material next steps of a ranch project is that it not as dicey of ground as intuiting someone’s emotions and knowing how to respond.

Our families subtly teach us how to use or disregard our intuition.  As we identify some of the ways this occurred in our life, we can use it to reclaim or further hone our intuitive awareness.

People often ask me why I don’t “read” the future in my psychic work. I have a canned answer about us all having “freewill” that allows us to change our future. I believe this, but there is more. Thinking we can know what we “should” do or what is coming next is a way to try to feel in control and limits healthy possibilities.

Whenever I want to know what’s next, I see it as me trying to assure myself, be in control of the unknown. I wonder, “Why don’t I feel safe with the mystery of not knowing?” I may be afraid of failure if I make a poor choice, or attached to a specific outcome that I think will result in my happiness. My attachment to an outcome has narrowed the possibility of what can make me happy because when an alternate experience unfolds, I may not enjoy it even if it’s better than what I thought I wanted!

Believing we can know the future allows us to feel we are in control but it is actually a way of giving our power away.  I think of the family who has planned a vacation to Hawaii.  The reservations for hotel, flights, and specific tours are all scheduled in advance. The kids are going to be in surf lessons while the parents are on a dolphin sighting boat tour.  But then something doesn’t turn out as planned. The tour bus taking them to the beach gets a flat. They are waiting on the side of the road for hours; sweating, hungry, feeling like their vacation is ruined.  Disappointed because what they had envisioned for their holiday isn’t happening. 

Beside them another couple is talking with two locals in a old truck that stopped to see if the bus driver needed help.  The other couple accepts the invitation to walk down the road to a few houses and sit on the porch in the shade with coconut water, enjoying conversation. They make new friends and give up on the tour bus all together, walking a bit farther to a local’s beach to explore the tide pools. They have a better day than they ever imagined because they are open to the possibility of what the universe offers rather than staying attached to their vision of how the future should have looked.

Like the more adventurous couple, we claim our power by trusting our intuition to guide us in the moment. There’s only power in the present.  In the present we have options, choices that direct our life toward either fulfillment or disappointment.  Disappointment is rooted in wanting something that doesn’t happen.

Making plans and having dreams are some of the best parts of being human.  Allowing our intuition to be our life tour guide is where the magic comes in.  When we surrender to the mystery, our journey’s take the most remarkable turns! I have no interest in knowing the future because I want to be surprised by life’s infinite possibility.