Shame is powerful and toxic. It is a form of control through judgment, a way of dictating what makes us worthy of love. Shame seeks to alter our behaviors through sending an energy current into our aura that invokes a sense of rejection, punishment, dirtiness, imperfection, being wrong, having shown an ugly face of humanity, crossed a taboo, revealed a secret, been inappropriate or weak to our animal instinct rather than shown civility. It may even suggest that our physical attributes or character traits are flawed, too fully revealed for the comfort of another. We can accept the shame into our sense of self, engage in a power struggle in order to defend ourselves or learn to be neutral to outside judgment.
When we feel shame for our words, actions or physical body it is a form of poison. The energy enters our aura with a signature of self-rejection, even self-hatred. Our physical and spiritual bodies absorb the toxic message and move farther away from peace. In balance, our inner guidance is meant to be finely tuned to the needs of our authentic self. When we hide or suppress our authentic self we detach from our intuitive truth. Then our physical body responds chemically to the sensations of stress, tension and fear that are created in response to the toxicity of shame. On both the physical and mental level, barriers are built to hearing our spiritual guidance.
Shame is commonly used to rear children to fit into social structure and invoke a sense of morality. This programs us to feel guilt for thoughts or activities we were taught are shameful, even when there is not another person present to judge us. Abusers use shame to emotionally manipulate their victims. They claim betrayal if the victim reveals the abuse; energetically turning it around to make the victim feel responsible for their abuse. Use of shame and guilt to control human behavior wounds and suppresses the light aspects of our nature along with the shadow aspects. A healthier way to establish a sense of moral guidance or socially appropriate boundaries is to acknowledge the behavior or words as valid while expressing that they make the witness or recipient feel uncomfortable. In this scenario, the person responding takes responsibility for their own feelings and communicates their boundaries without punishing the other or trying to control the situation.
When presented with the energy of shame as a conscious adult, its impact depends on the person delivering it and whether it hits us where we have a prior wound from shame. It may feel good to openly communicate that whatever is being judged in us is perfectly acceptable. But we also have the option to go beyond sending a return-volley of energy in the power struggle. When we heal wounds from past shame, we can become unscathed by other’s judgments and even find humor in their attempts to control. We heal these wounds through self-love and the help of others experienced in shifting outdated behaviors and belief systems. Clairvoyant reading is one path to identify the wounds from shame and heal our energetic body from layers of shame based suppression. Ultimately when we detoxify our lives we are healing future generations and stopping the cycle of abuse.