The Space In Between
The space in between contains some of the most powerful creation energy available to us. It is also pretty uncomfortable to relax into, letting the emptiness resonate with our creative selves. We naturally want to fill the space up with entertainment, getting stuff done or other comforting activities. Peace with the unknown can be a frightening concept. Can you welcome it? Soak in it as if it is the lounge chair on your sunny beach vacation? When you do, the pause opens you up to hear your inner voice. Suddenly you discover a new interest, a desire, an unanswered question that has been lingering in the back of your subconscious draining your energy. In the silence you connect with something deeper that gives your life meaning.
Fresh out of college I was traveling in Kenya with my dad when he taught me a trick to creating connection with the space in between. We were staying at a dairy farm that rented a few rooms and served food. When I sat down beside him for breakfast he said, “Let’s leave a chair between us. It will give us a chance to meet new people. Because we’re traveling together it limits our opportunities to get to know other people. We’re harder to approach.” It worked. Immediately a couple walked in. They sat down in the only two free chairs and we got to know them.
In the next few days we had several adventures together, a jaunt to ruins at a nearby town, collecting cowry shells on the beach and an expedition into caves that housed slaves a hundred years before. A farm hand showed us places only a local kid would know. In the caves we spooked swarms of bats that darted overhead, saw six-foot long monitor lizards, crunched beetles underfoot and found symbols of voodoo. Our new companions added dimension to the adventure and our combined curiosity opened the door to more experiences.
Following the mystery is like that, if you plan every moment and stay rigidly attached to your program there’s less room for the spontaneous to work its magic, less permission to listen to your intuition and change course. The space in between is where pleasure happens. It adds richness to even the mundane act of eating breakfast. Sun filters through to illuminate our lives in those cracks of time that are undefined. Downtime, rest, doing nothing, this is where inspiration is born. It is where we can discover ourselves and what contributes to our happiness.