Blinded by What We Want to Believe
Why are we blinded in certain situations, when it retrospect the truth seems so obvious? It may be that we have:
- Attachment to a specific outcome
- Resistance to how the information will change our life
- Hope that a person won’t deceive us or cause us harm
- An unspoken agreement with the person to not notice something they are hiding
- Given power to a past experience of our own, society’s or a parent’s
It is human nature to give preferential treatment to what we want to believe is true, brushing aside our intuition. Seeing the truth is not always pleasant. We start down a path with partial information, make decisions and follow our hopes. Then a new piece of information presents itself that changes our perspective on the path we’ve chosen. We need the experiences of the journey in order to collect those bits of information that illuminate our vision. Yet it is hard to agree to step into the unknown.
When we put one foot in front of the other in response to our inner “yes” “no” or “I don’t know yet” the action leads to greater clarity around a specific choice. We don’t always have all of the information at hand. In fact, if we had all of the information we may not have acted and thus missed a valuable opportunity. Noticing our physical sensory responses can assist in fleshing out the less overt details behind a decision. It is as simple as taking pause to look at our attachments, resistance, agreements and other potential blind spots through the lens of messages from our body. These messages help us discover facts that are material for making better decisions.