Stop Trying to Figure Out What’s Next
People often ask me why I don’t “read” the future in my psychic work. I have a canned answer about us all having “freewill” that allows us to change our future. I believe this, but there is more. Thinking we can know what we “should” do or what is coming next is a way to try to feel in control and limits healthy possibilities.
Whenever I want to know what’s next, I see it as me trying to assure myself, be in control of the unknown. I wonder, “Why don’t I feel safe with the mystery of not knowing?” I may be afraid of failure if I make a poor choice, or attached to a specific outcome that I think will result in my happiness. My attachment to an outcome has narrowed the possibility of what can make me happy because when an alternate experience unfolds, I may not enjoy it even if it’s better than what I thought I wanted!
Believing we can know the future allows us to feel we are in control but it is actually a way of giving our power away. I think of the family who has planned a vacation to Hawaii. The reservations for hotel, flights, and specific tours are all scheduled in advance. The kids are going to be in surf lessons while the parents are on a dolphin sighting boat tour. But then something doesn’t turn out as planned. The tour bus taking them to the beach gets a flat. They are waiting on the side of the road for hours; sweating, hungry, feeling like their vacation is ruined. Disappointed because what they had envisioned for their holiday isn’t happening.
Beside them another couple is talking with two locals in a old truck that stopped to see if the bus driver needed help. The other couple accepts the invitation to walk down the road to a few houses and sit on the porch in the shade with coconut water, enjoying conversation. They make new friends and give up on the tour bus all together, walking a bit farther to a local’s beach to explore the tide pools. They have a better day than they ever imagined because they are open to the possibility of what the universe offers rather than staying attached to their vision of how the future should have looked.
Like the more adventurous couple, we claim our power by trusting our intuition to guide us in the moment. There’s only power in the present. In the present we have options, choices that direct our life toward either fulfillment or disappointment. Disappointment is rooted in wanting something that doesn’t happen.
Making plans and having dreams are some of the best parts of being human. Allowing our intuition to be our life tour guide is where the magic comes in. When we surrender to the mystery, our journey’s take the most remarkable turns! I have no interest in knowing the future because I want to be surprised by life’s infinite possibility.