Over and over life presents us with unexpected opportunities that stretch our comfort zone. There really is no such thing as getting comfortable unless you avoid contact with others. Even nature brings experiences that affect your energy and require shifts to plans. Ultimately, we all desire to stay centered and be at peace regardless of what happens in our life.

From the energy perspective, you have peace when you have graceful boundaries with the people in your life, feel grounded, refill your energy regularly and have balanced exchanges with others.

Sounds simple, but as far as I can tell it’s the most complex part of being a soul in a human body.

People want more than you have to give at times. Their fears or trauma get triggered, so they grab on to you to ground and regain their balance. It can really throw you off. They make mistakes that impact you. Or you make a choice that has unexpected consequences. Having something unexpected rock your world, including someone who brings destabilizing energy, is like getting caught in a storm.

You’re on a hike in the mountains on a sunny day. You feel at peace.

Thunder rolls in the distance. Your inner-voice says, “I know this one. Got it. No problem.”

Lightening ripples across looming dark clouds you see beyond blue sky. Do you feel at peace now?

Hair stands up on your arms as the storm moves your way. Your inner-voice is like, “Maybe it’s a good idea for me to change my plan, turn around, move to lower ground, seek shelter?”

Do you feel at peace now?

Lightening is hitting the high points. Torrents of rain are pelting down. You didn’t bring a rain jacket. Your inner-voice is running through all sorts of possible bad scenarios laced with criticism, “You know better. You didn’t tell anyone where you were hiking. You didn’t come prepared. Your intuition nudged you to turn around. If you had, you would be back to your car by now.”

Your drenched, tiny hail pelting your skin. Thankfully the lightening has passed. But not the self-critical voice. Your energy was thrown off. How do you regain your peace?

Life happens. Your peace will be tested over and over again. Sometimes it will be due to a choice you made that has consequences you didn’t expect. Sometimes it will be others energy that impacts you and requires some work to reclaim your peace.

When something is stealing your peace, its most important to return to the basics (see diagram).

  1. Visualize your grounding cord. A fresh one, deeply rooted in the earth. (RED ARROW)
  2. Reset your aura bubble. This is me. That is you. We can love each other, have compassion, help each other and NOT be IN each other’s bubble. (BLUE CIRCLE)
  3. Call your energy back to you. Imagine it coming from the person or situation that your peace was lost to, pouring back in to fill you up through the top of your head. (GOLD SUN & ARROW)

The tests to your peace will come. That’s a guarantee. But you always have the power to reclaim your peace by reclaiming your energy.

You are born with a bunch of DNA that gives your cells the building blueprint for your body. DNA is like an architectural plan for the building that is your body, from conception to death. As a soul entering your family, biological or adoptive, you inherit more than the DNA that has survived and evolved for thousands of years. You get a broad array of deeply impactful and mostly unconscious soul vows, beliefs and programming. This is your spiritual genetic inheritance.

While you can influence your health and appearance, your DNA is set or life. That’s not true for your spiritual genetic inheritance. You have come into your family line to help it evolve what no longer works genetically and you have the opportunity to heal aspects of your spiritual genetic inheritance.

For example, your mother’s mother may have been told or had the experience that she needed to “earn her keep.” That merely shining her unique soul light wasn’t enough to illicit the approval or love of her family. To navigate life, she created a belief that she had to over-give to be worthy of approval. Never sitting down to the dinner table while the rest of the family ate, often feeling depleted, forever giving, and uncomfortable receiving.

This belief became part of the spiritual DNA she passed down to her children, that they then passed down to their children. Is it true that she wasn’t enough as her unique soul light? No. But she believed it because those who birthed her into the world taught her through their behaviors and responses.

Her experience became a part of her decedent’s spiritual genetic inheritance, rather than simply a learned behavior, because it made an unconscious imprint on the soul memory bank. An unresolved experience, that she spent her whole life seeking to resolve through over giving.

Another form of spiritual inheritance is a soul vow with another being. When an ancestor makes an agreement with a spiritual entity, helpful or harmful, or allows one into their space these entities can get passed down for generations.

Two hundred years ago, your ancestor may have grown up in a physically abusive home. He felt pain a lot and didn’t like the way it felt. So, he called out for help, “I don’t want to feel this pain.”  This created an agreement with a protective entity that helped him not feel the pain. Something he needed for survival. At the time it was helpful. As an adult, he could have said, “thank you, I don’t need your protection from pain anymore.” And ended the soul vow with that entity, allowing himself to feel a full spectrum.

Because he kept the agreement and felt it was necessary to safely navigate life, he passed this soul vow down to the next generation. In the next generation, it may have taken the form of blocking that person from their heart, making it hard for them to feel connection or driven the person to abuse alcohol to avoid feeling. The entities job was to block feeling pain and it continued doing its job.

Your soul continuously seeks to resolve that which has been left unresolved by repeating the experience until it is resolved. Even if that experience was not your experience but one of your ancestors. The unresolved spiritual DNA of your ancestors needs to be released so you can be more fully aligned with your soul. The same is true for our soul vows with entities that are inter-generational. Are they helpful, or is it time to end the agreement? You probably have another way to navigate life that is more fulfilling or peaceful than their presence allows you.

Honor Your Sacred Life

Natalie —  February 28, 2018 — Leave a comment

When the day-to-day feels lacking. When you’ve got what you wanted but it doesn’t satisfy. What you want feels unclear or impossibly out of reach. When you wonder what is required to make you feel alive, at peace, purposeful… it is time for ritual.

I believe much of the lack and disappointment we feel, even in the midst of prosperity, is because we are missing ways to honor our sacred life. For thousands of years humans have marked transitions, acknowledged seasons, expressed gratitude, and made symbolic gestures to the Universe to make their desires known. Ritual honors the sacred aspects of life. We have forgot our rituals. And we are suffering for it.

Sure, we have holidays, take vacations, make lists of our goals, and celebrate what we have accomplished. But ritual is deeper. It is not about doing and achieving, rather connection, fulfillment and being on your path. The process of ritual requires getting clear, asking for what you want, while holding the possibility of it in your heart, before it happens.

Rituals provide the container to align all aspects of your Self with intention: mind, body, heart and spirit. When you invoke ritual, you make a choice with your mind, take action with your body, feel the gratitude and desire with your heart and align with your soul purpose.

Conversations with the Universe aren’t as common in our time but they are just as essential to thriving. A ritual is a conversation with the Universe. It is a way to express yourself that doesn’t require words.

You may dance your ritual, bathe as a ritual, sit under a starry sky and ask for guidance as a ritual. You may create an altar of pine cones, rocks and feathers, plant seeds or allow your tears to fall into a river. You may wrap your shoulders with a blanket, imagine being held by the Universe, or hike to a mountain top and sing your heart out.

In all of these you are honoring your desire with intention and sacred process.

Rituals don’t cost money or require elaborate performance. They are from the heart. Feeling alive, at peace and purposeful, require an investment in your sacred life. Ritual is a powerful way to honor and infuse this sacredness into everything you do.

For a place to start in creating your ritual, use my 3 Day Ritual guideline (download FREE here). This tool will help you create space, hold space and manifest your intentions. When planning your ritual, consider the best timing, ask for support from the Universe and someone you trust.

— Join me in a Guided 3 Day Ritual to Manifest with Intention March 13-20, 2018 —

There is a place between light and dark, between clear and foggy, where you can see a parallel World. When I drive down the curvy forest road to where I grew up, in the coastal mountains of Oregon, I often feel the Mists. That in-between place, where Spirit is very present and reality bends in a way that makes our human concerns seem less relevant.

I find that place expansive, mystical, alluring. And while I don’t want to spend all of my time there, I like going there because it reminds me what I pretend is so important, this life, is actually just a blink in cosmic time. In the Mists, I might meet a long-lost love or feel free to talk with angels and animals.

We all are seeking reason to give our life meaning. Some do this by having children, a family. Continuing life, witnessing the innocence in a child. Some through dedicating to their work. Others in exploring the World or their inner world.

The Mists are where you get to discover the “why”. What you are here for. What gives you purpose.

It’s much simpler than you’d like to imagine. Yes, even simpler than pro-creation, success, or discovery. What gives you purpose is choice. Without choice you would be nothing but a clone, repeating that which those before have lived.

You have choice. Choice is your magic gateway.

You’ll find the Mists in magical moments when you are driving down the road or hiking to a hilltop. While you may not be able to see far ahead, you can see deep and wide from your soul’s perspective. In the Mists, you witness another dimension of reality. You realize that many of the things you fill your time with don’t really matter. What matters is that you are a soul in this fractal of time and you get to choose. You choose what souls you dance with, what dreams you make real.

Certainly, you have a unique reason for being alive right now, beyond choice. But your choice is the place you start to truly live. The Mists, when you are open to entering them, will let you see your dharma, what your soul work is in this lifetime.

You can’t force the gateway to open. The window between Worlds opens at Divine timing, and only when you are willing to see. It could be you’ve driven down that road 1000 times and the Mists never opened for you.

Call out for the opening. Request it, look for it, choose it. There’s no time like the present. Why wait? Life is here to be lived. Magic is waiting to happen.

Stop Your Energy Leaks

Natalie —  December 1, 2017 — 2 Comments

Your energy is your power. When your energy is gathered, like drops of water in a river, its power is amplified. You choose to give your energy to the people you love, the causes you support, the work that allows you to live. And at times you may find yourself feeling unfocused or drained.

Imbalances of energy exchange are energy leaks. They occur when you work or live with an energy vampire. When you are helping ground someone who is ungrounded. When you have been programmed to believe that your power is too much. When you chronically give more than you receive. When you are raised to not have permission to say no.

If you are dealing with someone who always wants more from you. They don’t know how to regenerate their own energy so they hook into the energy of others. At work this could be a manager that sets unreasonable deadlines, creates destabilizing drama or micro-managing busywork. At home this may be a family member who always has demands, is angry or interrupts what you are doing to make you focus on their agenda. They may play victim or use guilt to hook you and use your energy.

“Energy is the driving force for the universe… One form of energy can be transferred to another form.” Scientific Principles

This science is true for human energy as well as energy held in the earth elements. You have the opportunity to focus the transfer of your energy in a way that is fulfilling by shoring up your energy leaks. As you become conscious of how your energy is being used you can stop the leaks and create more balanced energy exchanges.

The most effective way to stop energy leaks is regularly practicing Active Meditation (more info). In this practice you visualize your energy field (aura), reset your chakras, create a new grounding cord and call your energy back to yourself (video example). Defining what is you and what is not you, energetically through this process, is key to dissolving the hooks from energy vampires too. When you own all of your energy, by being aware of how you are sharing it in the world, it is harder for people to take it from you without your agreement.

Your energy is your power. It took you a lifetime to develop how you share your energy, so be patient with the time it takes to break the habits that lead to energy leaks. Each energy leak you stop gives you more focus and fulfillment in your life.

Who taught you what boundaries were allowed or expected? It’s not a subject taught in kindergarten or elementary school. Boundaries are demonstrated socially. They are both subtle and exacting.

The greatest cause of suffering I see in sensitive people originated from a lack of clear boundaries.

Your parents may have told you “no,” punished, shamed or discouraged you from activities that made them feel uncomfortable, crossed their boundaries. They may have had no boundaries or a lot or rules about touch, words, privacy, food, allowed emotions, money, how to dress, nudity, topics of conversation, personal space, time, performance at school, in sports or work.

The rules you learned at home may not have worked at school or with your friends who had different boundaries.

You need healthy boundaries. When another person shows you their boundaries you know how to relate with them. They create a clear container for understanding your world.

When the adults around you growing up don’t have boundaries, don’t honor your boundaries or change the rules frequently, it creates a state of heightened alert. The good news is that you likely have stronger than average intuition. The bad news is you have it because you didn’t feel safe and had to intuitively read the world around you all the time, to navigate the shifting boundaries.

Intuitively tracking those around you all the time is exhausting and confusing. It’s exhausting because you don’t get to relax into a sense of safety. It’s confusing because often the energy or feelings you sense in those around you gets misinterpreted as your own experience. Keeping your psychic antenna open all the time blurs the boundaries.

For example, you work at an office and have a passive aggressive co-worker. You find yourself feeling angry a lot but can’t say why. When you leave work, the anger subsides. Because you are immersed in their energy with no boundaries it feels like your own anger. Reading the mood of those around you is a skill learned in order to camouflage and create a safe space in an environment with unpredictable boundaries.

As child in an environment of unclear or absent boundaries reading others to protect yourself and prevent harm is essential to survival. But to read someone this way is to get in their psychic space. Over time this survival skill creates suffering because you feel everything around you. So how do you learn to reset your psychic boundaries?

Resetting your boundaries so intuition can work for you rather then against you requires consciously owning your energy field on a regular basis. Practicing simple active meditation tools is what works for me. A series of visualizations that create healthy energy boundaries can be applied on a walk or in a conference room. In the simplest form, you notice your grounding cord, set your aura bubble, put up protection roses and call your energy back to yourself.

To feel more of you and less of those around you isn’t hard-hearted. You still have compassion and can even help others more when you aren’t matching their emotional state.

If you are interested in cultivating these skills Active Meditation training can be purchased HERE.

What are your dreams, your heart’s desires? are they current? have they been trampled on? do they need to be updated or let go to make room for a new vision?  What you want to create and experience in your life maybe a deep inner-secret, or something you’ve been sharing with the world. Your deepest desires take time coming to fruition.

While waiting, it is a challenge to not lose sight of your dreams. That’s hard when there are circumstances (money, time, etc.) or people reinforcing the belief that that they are not possible. Sometimes it requires letting go so that they have room to manifest, other times it means not giving up, taking actions that help your dream manifest.

The power of the August 21st 2017 Total Solar Eclipse is all about opening your heart, and with your heart open consciously activating what your soul has vowed to experience in this life. Your soul vows are in essence your dreams, what you desire to offer, experience, commit to and feel in this life. You can activate your dreams at any time but all the energy of the cosmos is focused on this now and into the next two years.  You have super powered support!

Step One – Get clear on what it is you want!

Part of getting clear is moving other peoples, dreams, expectations and judgement out of your space. It could be a loved one, co-worker, group you spend time with or broader social belief system. The collective doubt, your own experiences and people in your life who have fear or lack of permission to live fulfilled, block your vibrational alignment with your dreams. Take time to clear them out (link to Own Your Space).

I’ve been in the process of buying my next home for the past year. In the beginning of my process, I had to lovingly release the disappointment of my friends that I was moving away from them. Toward the end I had to work extensively on clearing out the fears and control of the property seller. All along I had to face my parents desires to keep me close and return to the clarity about my own needs in balance with my family’s needs.

Step Two – Claim your power to manifest!

Your intentions make a difference. When it comes to calling in your dreams, your attention is required. To manifest your desires, choose to believe they are in reach even if you can’t explain how. The key word here is “choose”. Your beliefs are your choice.

The energies of creation and manifestation work hand-in-hand with your emotions. This isn’t to say having moments of disappointment, anger or doubt ruin your chances. But it means that when you are taking creation-manifestation action pick times when you feel bright, hopeful, excited, optimistic, or in the flow, so that what you attract to your dreams matches that energy! (link to Manifestation Tips)

In buying my new home, I had moments of impatience, frustration, discouragement that it was taking so long and disappointment when I didn’t get the first property I made an offer on. But when I picked out properties to look at with my real estate agent, when I spent time writing in my vision journal I named “Dream It Alive,” and when I asked my guides/angels for support, I surrendered those emotions and chose to focus on the feelings I desire to experience in my new home.

Step Three – Be flexible!

What you desire is possible, it just may show up in a different form than you had in mind. To manifest your dreams, you need to give the universe room for creative solutions.

I was looking for my next home for over a year and wasn’t seeing the type of house that appealed to me. No one had created it yet, at least within my price range. When I let go of the home coming in the form I had imagined and realized I needed to create that house, I got to focus on the land and location for my next home. Allowing the universe this room to manifest I found a match and felt aligned making the purchase of property that didn’t have my dream house on it. I wanted and got an old barn, land that I loved and some acreage with water rights. Now I get to create the house that matches my vision in a community that feels right for me.

Step Four – Commit to your heart!

There is massive power in commitment. If it wasn’t so, commitments wouldn’t be so scary and thrilling to make! This Total Solar Eclipse is in support of commitments you’ve made with other souls and to yourself. It super powers your vows to whatever you choose to be conscious of creating in your life. So now is the time to do it. When you shine the light of consciousness on your relationships, home, career, life purpose you claim your power to create the life you want. Vow to yourself to bring your heart’s desires into the light and activate them this month! The cosmos and I will be cheering you on!

Before you were born your soul vowed to fulfill your purpose for this lifetime. It included plans to seek certain experiences, gain new awareness and complete some karma. You made promises to other souls to reunite for fulfillment of your commitments.

You may have vowed that you would heal pain from a past-life conflict in this life so you have revisited it to resolve or release its power over you. You may have had a great love with a soul and vowed to continue it in another lifetime. Now you are here living! What your soul committed to before entering this body may not be what you want to do.

What if you are ready to change or let go of those vows? What if you want to make some new commitments? How do you do it without the old vow continuing to pull you back to the original plan? The old vows need to be released to make room for the new ones. When you approach your soul’s vows consciously, it shifts what you call-in to experience in your day-to-day and the big picture of your life.

The astrological energy leading up to the Solar Eclipse on August 21st 2017 is focused on ending, updating and creating new vows. That means it is a potent time to work with your vows while supported by the universe.

There are 3-steps to prepare to update soul vows. They also support your intuitive clarity:

  1. Clean Out Your Aura
  2. Align to Your Higher Self (soul essence)
  3. Fill-in with Intentional Energy

Once you have taken the 3 steps preparing for clarity, take time to write down or think through what vows you have made to in your relationships, your body, your home, your work, your economic experience, your sense of purpose. Then ask yourself, “Is this commitment in alignment with who I am now? Is this vow needing change or is it great as-is?” You may feel the response in your body, a softening or a tightening of the belly. Listen.

With that information, notice the vows that create a tightening in your body or that you know are not in-alignment with your present or desired soul experience. Scan for what is out of alignment, toss some options to your soul Self and see which bring a softening to your belly (3rd chakra).

Ask yourself, “Does this agreement feel balanced? Does this vow honor my higher self? What does it feel like if I give myself permission to let it go? To change it? Am I complete with this commitment?”

Where changes in vows are with another person, I recommend both intentional updating of your soul agreement and direct communication. (check out my blog post on updating soul agreements)

Where vows are shifting with your Self, there is both the spiritual aspect and the physical action. Spiritually you can call on your higher self to update these vows. I will go into depth on this in a short course starting in June (click here for course info).

Soul vows are a choice, conscious or unconscious. A commitment that you need to refresh/keep current regularly, even in the best of times, so they don’t become stale, outdated or even harmful. Take advantage of this magical time to support the reset of your vows leading up to the Solar Eclipse of August 21st 2017.

I often get into conversations with parents of sensitive kids who don’t know how to help.  They were never given the tools to manage their own sensitivity or they don’t have the same sort of sensitivity. I was a sensitive kid.

Some people are simply born with more sensitivity to the energies around them. They have natural empathy, feeling what others feel. And frequently get drained, overstimulated or emotional in response to their surroundings.  They don’t yet know how to recognize when what they are feeling is not their feelings, or how to create healthy boundaries.  Sensitivity has two main roots:

  1. Nature
  2. Trauma

Trauma based sensitivity is a result of conditioning. Many highly sensitive people had childhood trauma. Their sense of safety required heightened alertness, “reading” people in order to minimize abuse or manage stress. A survival skill to navigate home life or societal traumas such as war.

I’ve recently identified a new branch on the trauma root that previous generations did not experience. Sensitive children conditioned by the stress of over stimulation. Constant stimulation has particularly deep impact on developing minds.

What we experience in childhood sets the baseline for normal throughout life.  Trauma that heightens sensitivity doesn’t have to be first hand.  Frequent exposure to unpredictable violence through the media can traumatize a child. Make them feel unsafe at school or other environments where a sense of safety was previously the norm. How a child learns to manage it shapes their life forever.

My parents were sensitive too. Like most of us they were taught or found ways to suppress their sensitivity when it got too uncomfortable. There are a lot of ways we suppress sensitivity:

  • Substances that alter our state of sensitivity, from coffee to alcohol or pharmaceuticals
  • Checking-out, habits that detach us from feeling, TV, internet, video games
  • Staying busy, not allowing enough time to process experiences
  • Eating for comfort
  • Using the mind to deny what one senses

Now that you understand a bit more about the roots of sensitivity and how it is typically suppressed, what can you do to help yourself or your sensitive child?

The first step is to shift from thinking sensitivity is bad. Sensitivity is heightened awareness. It is a skill. Even a gift when we get comfortable with it. Getting comfortable with it is the tricky part.

Second, you learn to notice when it’s happening and identify it as something you are experiencing in response to your environment rather than your own emotions or thoughts. To do this ask yourself or ask your child to ask themselves a few questions:

What do I feel? Is it “my” feeling? Is it something I feel around me? What or who around me is feeling like this?

This begins the process of getting clear on what you sense that is your energy and what isn’t your energy that you feel in your environment.

Once you know that something you feel is not yours, you are free to consciously give your Self space from it. You can do this by visualizing the emotion, thought or physical sensation moving into a rose or a pretty rock. Somewhere separate from your body. As you are practicing you might want to have a clean-out rock or crystal that you use for this and periodically soak it in water with Epsom salts to clear the energy.

Over time your awareness of the sources of your sensitivity becomes clearer and your ability to separate from the energy that isn’t yours is a habit. Then you will experience your sensitivity as a tool or a gift to help you navigate life.

The magic of sensitivity is revealed when you are not suppressing it, turning it off or denying it but can see it as valuable information. Then you are free to apply the understanding to your choices in a given situation.

It was the hardest winter in the sixty-plus year history of our family ranch. Record rains, snow and freezing weather many times from December through early March. The extremely abnormal weather put a big stress on the pregnant mama cow’s right at the time they were ready to give birth.

We had several cows with newborns that needed a stay at “Hotel Corral” where they had shelter, extra hay and room service (high protein grass pellets) delivered in the morning by yours truly. We had four calves who lost their mothers from complications pre-or-post birth and a young first-calf heifer who we had to help give birth, pulling the calf as she pushed. Its head was too big and both could have died. Thankfully they are doing great now.

I helped bottle feed the calves, massage them, encourage them to walk and love them. Being in close relationship, I began to recognize the unique soul signature of each calf, cow or bull just like I see my dog and humans.

It was emotionally hard to witness them suffer, while doing all we could to help. It brought up a lot of questions for me. I’ve always felt good about the way our family raises cattle organically, the old-fashioned way. Lots of room to roam, graze and in winter hay cut from our own non-chemically treated fields.

Now I was asking myself uncomfortable questions. What is my relationship with eating meat? How did humans become so detached from the source of their food? And what is my soul agreement with each of the calves who I know are being raised to be someone’s dinner in a couple of years?

Hard realities for a cattle rancher’s daughter to look at after being away from it for 25 years. I bonded and had a soulful relationship with each of these calves. My soul agreement was to love them and care for them while learning the signs of health and illness. These vulnerable orphans taught me about bonding, showed me what their souls were interested in experiencing by being born as a cow or bull, and helped me surrender, what is out of my control, a little more.

I used my energy tools to give healing to each of the calves and their mamas. I became particularly attached to a calf I named Teardrop, whose mom died when he was four days old.  On his white face, he had a little black teardrop mark by his right eye (he’s pictured in this post).

It is a rare occurrence to have a bottle-fed-calf at our ranch. We aren’t set-up for it long-term. So Dad ran an ad on craigslist to find someone interested in bottle calves, typically it’s a 4H kid. I prayed that whoever would come for the bottle calves would give them a good home.

The next day a couple came out to take a look at Teardrop and decided to take his buddy too. They have a big cattle ranch in Montana (not a feed lot) with mother cows who had lost calves. They planned to match these calves up with new mamas, using the method my grandpa used long ago to get the mother cows to accept a calf that isn’t their own.

While I know, their ultimate fate hasn’t improved, this is the best possible scenario for the days they get to enjoy being a soul in a calf’s body. As I explore my soul agreements with animals and that responsibility, I am learning from my ranch experiences that even if my encounter is brief, I have an opportunity to honor each unique soul and offer love.