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One of my favorite college professors had a theory of three human flaws. Prof. Lawrence asked us to watch for these flaws in the news and when we got into the workforce. His hope was that we would recognize them and do what we could to counter balance them in the World. They are:

  1. Greed
  2. Incompetence
  3. Tendency to Abuse Power

As a lightworker, abuse of power is a pattern I see clients suffering at the hands of every day. From the soul perspective, your energy — what you focus it on and how you exchange it — is your power. You can trade our energy for a pay check or collaborative exchanges in relationship. When the energy is taken without an equal exchange, it is abuse of power.

There is a lot that drives the tendency to abuse power. This plays out dramatically on the World screen. People’s fear that they don’t have enough, competition for resources. Desire to be in control. Ego’s need to dominate. Belief in being better than or more entitled than someone else.

Beneath the behaviors and beliefs is an energetic vacuum. What allows me to have compassion or at least neutrality for a person who abuses power at home or in the workplace – a taker, a user or energy vampire – is the awareness that they don’t know how to generate their own energy. Compassion doesn’t equate to tolerance.

Protecting yourself from energy abuse is the most important thing you can do to stay aligned with your soul path. Most common and subtly are the energy hooks and vampirism that happen between the closest people in your life: friends, life-partners, family members, co-workers.

When you have an energy leak or full on vampire impacting you, it undermines your ability to manifest your intentions into a physical form. You may have a great idea, feel its creative energy but then it doesn’t have enough oomph behind it to get traction.

Abuse of power can leave you feeling exhausted, confused, even guilty for saying no. So how do you stop these energy losses and re-balance your life?

Regular practices that set your energy field / aura with healthy boundaries, make you less susceptible to abuse of power. Use your intuition and meditation tools. Being conscious of your soul contracts with the people in your life and updating them to “only available for equal energy exchange” is a step in healing abusive relationships. Clear generational patterns, and programs that allow the abuse of power to hook you. And maybe most important, fill your energetic cup through practices that don’t take energy from others.

Oddly some of the most powerful people in the world are hooking into those around them and using that energy to be powerful. When energy is voluntary given it can support co-creation, a cause or belief system. This is free will. When the energy is being hooked, vampired or taken through dishonest means it is an abuse of power.

Pay attention to where you feel more energy going out that is offered in relationships. Trust your intuition to show you where energy is out of balance, even in the broader world community. Commit to the practices that support your energy exchanges staying in balance.

October 9 I’m starting a LIVE practice group. In our first session I’ll teach a tool for reclaiming your power and we’ll practice it together.

Join HERE

Some people fuel their life by tapping into the energy of others.  The most skilled energy consumers find a way to hook into us and keep us hanging.  Part of their pattern is use of a compelling promise that goes unfulfilled. It is sticky to keep us from detaching from them.  This type of draining relationship connection feeds on our deepest desires, making it particularly hard to reclaim our power.

We may notice the relationship has us waiting on a future return but subconsciously feel there’s a payoff in it for us, the fulfillment of something we need.  Our desire may be the love they offer, the purpose we feel from helping them, a sense of being valued, or the influence we may gain from connection to their projected power. I call this the hook and retreat energy dynamic. 

This friend, lover or family member frequently says or insinuates the value of staying connected to them is in a future promise.  “When I do ______, you’re going to get ______.”  When I make a lot of money, when I become famous, when I get a divorce, when I get promoted, when I die, when I finish whatever I am doing that requires me to ask you for more energy than I give you in return.  Unfortunately the time of rebalancing rarely comes.  The energy consumer hasn’t figured out how to generate their own power so they seek it in outside sources.  If they do finally achieve a goal, there’s no lasting payout for us because their target changes to a future date.

We all have been on both sides of energy exchange; no one is immune to moments of giving or taking out-of-balance. But when we experience hook and retreat, our body will let us know through a sensation of tightness or queasiness in our belly.  This is the location of our third chakra, where we activate our personal power.  The body notices that our power is being redirected.  The result is less energy for our own creations and a sense of being off-balance. 

The hook and retreat relationship has moments that make us feel crazy.  The words, actions and energy of the energy consumer are questionable enough to evoke a sense of uncertainty.  Our intuition is trying to make us aware of the deception.  The energy consumer always believes their own story so they don’t realize they are being deceptive.  The imbalance created from the cord into our core makes it hard to see clearly and remove ourselves or renegotiate the relationship. 

Here are a couple of tools you can practice to reclaim your power when you have been hooked:

  • Clean out your 3rd chakra.  Visualize a gold rose and see it mopping out that belly area front to back, soaking up all the energy that is not yours in that space.  Imagine the rose flying somewhere far away and dissipating.  Call your energy back to you from any person you’ve given your power away to and fill the empty space with your own vibration.
  • Visualize a Protection Rose in the space between you and this person.  The intention of the rose is to filter out any attempts to attach to your energy.

The stealth aspect of this behavioral pattern is how it taps into our subconscious desire.  We are seduced by a subversive agenda.  The truth that we are never going to get the need met is hard to see. It feels possible and it feels strong.   By reclaiming our energy space we have the opportunity to see the relationship more clearly and gain energy to use for our own creations.