Natalie Cutsforth https://nataliecutsforth.com/ Intuitive Reader Healer Mentor Fri, 28 Oct 2022 21:23:16 +0000 en hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.3 5 Steps in 5 minutes to Reduce Anxiety Before Work https://nataliecutsforth.com/5-steps-in-5-minutes-to-reduce-anxiety-before-work/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-steps-in-5-minutes-to-reduce-anxiety-before-work https://nataliecutsforth.com/5-steps-in-5-minutes-to-reduce-anxiety-before-work/#respond Fri, 28 Oct 2022 21:23:16 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5976 The hardest part of a job can be navigating the energy of the people you encounter. At work, you have an unspoken agreement to avoid certain topics or suppress unacceptable emotions. That means you have to guess, assume, or use your intuition to figure out what is left out of communications. Reading a situation to discover […]

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The hardest part of a job can be navigating the energy of the people you encounter. At work, you have an unspoken agreement to avoid certain topics or suppress unacceptable emotions. That means you have to guess, assume, or use your intuition to figure out what is left out of communications.

Reading a situation to discover hidden agendas, or simply trying to understand what’s not being said, opens the door to more than the answer. It allows other people’s energy into your space, changing the way you feel.

When another person’s energy alters your nervous system, it stresses your body and stimulates anxiety. Anxiety is a signal your body gives you that there is a threat.

Yet it is more than worrying about the threat of an unknown outcome that causes anxiety, it is the threat of making choices from an altered state. You are in an altered state when someone else’s needs, wants and desires are affecting your nervous system.

Everyone shows up at their work with a history both personal and professional, as well as a unique collection of patterns. This includes: how they respond in a new relationship, how they respond once they believe they have established themselves, what they think you expect of them, and what they expect of themselves in their role.

It's natural to read the people around you to get a feel for their expectations and unspoken needs. Yet it can allow their energy to get in your space and that causes stress.

I learned a lot about the impact of doing this during my 22 years working in the technology industry. I was opening myself up to read those around me each day at the office until I learned a simple visualization to manage my stress level before work each day.

It transformed my life, reduced stress and eliminated my anxiety. With these five steps you’ll set your boundaries and protect your energy so you don’t absorb negative energy from people around you, a primary reason for anxiety.

In five minutes, using five intentional visualization steps, you can set your boundaries and protect your energy so that you don’t find yourself anxious from encounters at work. It’s simple, you can do this visualization in the shower, while in bed before getting up, or while walking your dog.

Step one, acknowledge the support system that is always present, planet earth. Visualize your connection to the earth as a line of energy from the base of your spine. Imagine that this link from your body goes beneath the soil like tree roots, creating a flexible foundation. When you are grounded this way, it prevents other people’s energy from knocking you off balance.

Step two, bring your awareness to the center of your head, your analytical and intuitive mind. Take a moment to clear your head of anyone you feel in your space, whether an individual or group. Visualize the people moving out of your mind into a bubble. Send the bubble back to each person it belongs to, then pop it above their head. This ensures your mind is oriented toward your truth, not distorted by their expectations, needs, wants, or desires.

Step three, notice the space around your physical body. Your aura or energy field doesn’t end where your skin ends but extends beyond it. Have people been disregarding your boundaries? Time to define where your energy field ends and theirs begins. Visualize your aura bubble, let it rest comfortably about as far away from your body as your fingers can reach when your arms are outstretched. Use your imagination to paint your aura bubble a color, to more clearly define your energy field.

Step four, call your energy back to yourself. There are several ways you may lose energy at work. When you read the energy of a person to make sense of a situation, some of your awareness continues to track them, even when your focus changes. At times people will hook you by not responding or making a promise that never happens. They may cord your solar plexus to get some of your energy and direct it toward what they want. It’s important to reclaim that energy.

Imagine a big gold ball of light above your head that is magnetic. The magnet calls back all the bits of your energy that were lost to hooks, cords, or left tracking others. When the gold ball is full, imagine popping it and watch your reclaimed energy flow down into the top of your head. It fills you up from head to toe.

Step five, set protection for your energy at work in a way that does not create conflict or stress. Visualize a red rose in front of you, just outside of your aura bubble. It holds a high vibration inviting others to meet you in that positive, cooperative space. Set the intention that the protection rose filters out negative energy in your environment. With your imagination, make copies of this rose, behind your body, to your right side and left side, above your head and below your feet, so you have protection in all six directions.

You might want to practice the five steps with your eyes closed initially for more focus and get familiar with the flow. Once you are comfortable with these steps, try the practice eyes open, while walking, cooking or showering.

With this practice you are ready for the day and ready to keep anxiety at bay. You are connected to earth. Your mind is clear. Your personal space is defined. You have called your energy back to yourself. You have set high vibe protection. All in a short five minutes of focused visualization where it fits in your existing morning routine.

Don’t worry, this won’t stop you from getting great intuitive insights about encounters at work. It will simply prevent those involved from causing you as much stress.

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When Venting Becomes Vampirism https://nataliecutsforth.com/when-venting-becomes-vampirism/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=when-venting-becomes-vampirism https://nataliecutsforth.com/when-venting-becomes-vampirism/#comments Fri, 15 Jul 2022 00:57:32 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5646 What do you do when you’re in a conversation with somone who is venting their frustrations? Nod your head, show compassion, comfort them, make an excuse to walk away? The person is either sharing emotions in conversation with you because they feel safe, or because they want to get some of the energy back that […]

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What do you do when you’re in a conversation with somone who is venting their frustrations? Nod your head, show compassion, comfort them, make an excuse to walk away? The person is either sharing emotions in conversation with you because they feel safe, or because they want to get some of the energy back that they lost to the situation.

When the person is a victim of a bad situation, you don’t want to make it worse.

Yet there is a tipping point where listening to them vent becomes exhausting and slips into energy vampirism. When you recognize it, there is a way you can stop losing energy mid-conversation, without being rude.

The person venting feels ineffectual to directly address the situation they are unhappy about. Maybe you can relate to what they are going through. They want to talk about it with someone who will support their point of view in an effort to reclaim their power.

Because they are navigating a power loss, quite often they have an energy deficit they are looking to fill. They get energy and power from the interaction with you.

While you might feel a momentary high from engaging in their emotional drama, if they are vent-vampiring to fill their deficit, soon you will feel worse. The energy vent by the angry, sad or frustrated person plus the energy you give, add up to exhausting.

The good news is you can change your response and shift the energy without saying a word.

When you find yourself in a conversation with someone vent-vampiring, take a moment to notice your body’s response.

You likely feel some pull of energy on your solar plexus, just below your diaphragm above your belly button. It is where the person is tapping into your energy to gain power that they didn’t feel in the situation they are complaining about.

You may also feel distracted or mind fog that redirects your focus to the story they are telling you.

With your eyes open, use your imagination set protection between you and the venting person — protection could look like a beautiful rose or a warriors shield. Place the protection in front of your belly to protect it from them vampiring of your power and in front of your brain to protect it from them redirecting your focus.

Once you lovingly set the protection, you likely will notice a shift in conversation. The person isn’t getting the energy they want and will look for another person to vent-vampire.

After the conversation, notice if you picked up any negative energy before you put your protection in place? Use your imagination again to direct unwanted energy from your body into a rose, then send that rose far away to dissolve, with no harm done.

The great thing is you can do all of this while listening and they don’t even have to know.

If you are the one venting, notice if you’re seeking to refill your energy from the person listening to you or simply asking for a compassionate ear.

If you find you’re looking to regain your power or energy from the exchange, pause to reflect on situation where you lost power. Maybe it’s time to change your relationship with this situation, person or group?

You can reclaim your power without taking it from another person.

Visualize calling your energy back from the situation, person or group of people. Imagine a stream of your energy magnectically gathering in a big golden ball above your head.  Pop the ball and reclaim your energy as it flows down into the top of your head to fill you up.

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Why Intuitive People Don’t Sleep Well – 4 Steps to A Good Nights Rest https://nataliecutsforth.com/why-intuitive-people-dont-sleep-well-4-steps-to-a-good-nights-rest/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=why-intuitive-people-dont-sleep-well-4-steps-to-a-good-nights-rest https://nataliecutsforth.com/why-intuitive-people-dont-sleep-well-4-steps-to-a-good-nights-rest/#respond Fri, 18 Mar 2022 23:05:26 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5479 When you are an intuitive person, you feel the energy around you. Sometimes that means its harder to sleep.  Waking up exhausted or tossing and turning are common experiences. Sleep lets your body, mind and spirit refuel and repair. When your intuitive extrasensory awareness is alert 24/7, your body and mind can’t fully relax. It […]

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When you are an intuitive person, you feel the energy around you. Sometimes that means its harder to sleep.  Waking up exhausted or tossing and turning are common experiences.

Sleep lets your body, mind and spirit refuel and repair. When your intuitive extrasensory awareness is alert 24/7, your body and mind can’t fully relax. It doesn’t feel safe.

People’s energy – whether they are present physically or not – is the number one sleep disruptor for those with extrasensory awareness. Simply having someone sleep next to you in bed, can keep your energetic radar from turning off, to let you sleep.

In addition, people you have interactions with throughout your day are on your intuitive radar, whether the communication was in-person, online, phone, text, or email. You may feel their energy still lingering. This contributes to anxious thoughts about what may or may not be behind the energy. You’re processing what your intuition sensed that didn’t match the words.

When your extrasensory radar is on while you sleep, it’s an energy leak. Your energy is either going to another person, trying to figure out the past, or to determine the future. It’s not at rest. If you are intuitive you need to create safe energy boundaries to rest deeply.

Here are four simple visualizations to prepare your energy for more restful sleep. It helps to close your eyes when you do these exercises:

  1. Visualize your bed. Imagine that you are putting on a new mattress cover that is a gold grid pattern. The gold grid has a high frequency that cleans out the energy disrupters in your bed. See yourself turn on the gold grid like an electric blanket, to reset your sleep space.

  2. Imagine your bed has an energetic bedframe anchored to the earth. Your bedframe grows roots deep down into the ground from its four legs. This is called grounding. Grounding your bed makes it easier for your spirit to feel safe going into deep sleep.

  3. If you sleep with someone, no matter how much you love them, its healthy to intentionally set your aura. Your aura is the energy field around your body that defines where your energy ends and theirs begins. Your aura absorbs other people’s energy if it’s not set intentionally. Visualize a bubble around your body and give it a color to define its boundary. When walking around the aura bubble is about three feet from your body in all directions but when sleeping with someone you can tuck it in closer on one side, to allow for your partner. You do you. Let them do their own energy. If your partner has been getting some energy from you while they sleep, you may want to visualize a protection rose as a filter in-between you.

  1. Finally, if your brain is in a loop thinking about a conversation you had that day, a list of things you have to do, or worrying about something that might happen, it needs help to slow down. Visualize putting a chocolate brown stocking cap on your head or a sleep mask. When you cover your third-eye with this earthy color, it helps the brain slow down. You might also imagine turning down a volume knob on your thoughts for the night.

Your extrasensory awareness responds to visualization because intuition operates from the same part of your mind as your imagination. The creative less analytic side part of your brain. These visualizations may need to be done regularly for a while to set a new habit in your sleep space. But in time they will become the automatic way you set your intuitive energy for sleep.

Your intuitive awareness can result in sponging up other people’s pain, anger or depression. You can learn ways to set and protect your energy at any age.

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Chemistry, Relationship Karma & Karmic Debt https://nataliecutsforth.com/chemistry-relationship-karma-karmic-debt/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=chemistry-relationship-karma-karmic-debt https://nataliecutsforth.com/chemistry-relationship-karma-karmic-debt/#respond Thu, 30 Dec 2021 20:33:44 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5410 “For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Newtons Third Law Karma is the soul’s equivalent of the action reaction we set into motion in the universe. Yet isn’t always instant, it can follow us from one lifetime to the next. You have karma with family, friends, enemies, lovers, people you have unfinished […]

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“For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Newtons Third Law

Karma is the soul’s equivalent of the action reaction we set into motion in the universe. Yet isn’t always instant, it can follow us from one lifetime to the next.

You have karma with family, friends, enemies, lovers, people you have unfinished business with in this life or past lives. Where you’ve had intimate connection, conflict or another charged energy exchange, there’s karma.

We all have karmic relationships. In fact, every one of your relationships is a place where you exchange energy with action and reaction, thus create karma. Think of karma like consequences. Not all good or bad. Some choices have amazing consequences some have undesirable consequences.

One of my teachers said, most people feel their marriage is over when they resolve the karma but the truth is, they are just at a point where they have to choose if the relationship is what they want to invest in or not. Karma makes a romantic relationship feel hot, spicy, charged with energy.

Dare I say, karma creates chemistry. The reason chemistry is a mystery beyond pheromones and physical attraction is karma. Two souls have a familiarity, they recognize each other. They are drawn together by the karmic energy. When you hear someone refer to a beloved as their soul mate or twin flame, it’s karma.

You have karma with many other souls. It can be confusing if you feel a kanrmic connection and the other person doesn’t. When you have a soul contract – a karmic agreement from another lifetime – either of you may have made choices before your encounter in this lifetime, that changes your relationship karma.

It could be that one of you has a different soul plan for this lifetime. Or that one of you isn’t in alignment with your soul path so you disregard signs and synchronicities that try to put you on track.

Karma is such a powerful earth experience it keeps souls coming back for more. It lights your passion, pressures you to take risks, teaches you lessons you’d rather not have to learn.

The more conscious you are of the karmic exchanges in your life, the better your chance to benefit from there synchronicity. Karma will attract you to a person important to your soul path, whether the karma agreement is difficult or easy.

If you are in a negative karmic pattern with someone, you can release it. For example, a person who takes more from you than they give in return, owes you a karmic debt. Getting the “pay back” for karmic debt isn’t always a great thing. Attempts to rebalance karmic debt often create more debt.

To clear karma there has to be a release in BOTH directions. This means you can’t say, “you owe me” and also, “leave me alone.” No hooks, no cords no karmic debts, in either direction.

Neutralizing karma from an energetically charged relationship in your life is very powerful. And it can also come with some sadness, grief or sense of feeling deflated. Why? Because karma is energy and when you release the charged energy imbalance, you don’t have anything left to resist, resent or react to. No more drama.

Relationship karma is energy in motion. If you notice a relationship with someone in your life has lost its luster, it may just be that you’ve cleared your karma and need to choose another purpose for your energy together. If you are feeling dull and you can’t find your passion, ask your spirit guides for assistance attracting a supportive karmic relationship. It makes life fun.

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Energy Gremlins – They’re BACK! https://nataliecutsforth.com/energy-gremlins-theyre-back/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=energy-gremlins-theyre-back https://nataliecutsforth.com/energy-gremlins-theyre-back/#respond Thu, 30 Sep 2021 19:26:26 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5282 The times have dredged up old gremlins. The gremlin’s I thought I’d healed and made peace with years ago. THEY’RE BACK! Revisiting in the gremlins that stressed my younger self -- I see them differently. In my teens and twenties, I had lots of ups and downs. Call it depression or melancholy. The waves were high […]

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The times have dredged up old gremlins. The gremlin’s I thought I’d healed and made peace with years ago. THEY’RE BACK! Revisiting in the gremlins that stressed my younger self -- I see them differently.

In my teens and twenties, I had lots of ups and downs. Call it depression or melancholy. The waves were high and the troughs were deep. When I felt the lows, I went inward. Kept it to myself, until it passed. Comforted my self with fantasies, food and solo physical activities, masturbation, biking, hiking and snowboarding.

Eventually I learned that a big part of the ups and downs was related to empathically soaking up the energy of the people around me. It would change me temporarily and take awhile to get back to myself.

Unaware of what was happening energetically, at times I would take on a harmful entity (someone else’s gremlin) from a person who needed a healing.

Over time, as I learned about energy and my gift of psychic seeing and healing, I started managing my energy with regular visualization practices. I learned how to recognize and clear gremlins. I also released a lot of built up energy in therapy sessions, ecstatic dance and body work.

I found peace that I could have never imagined in my younger self. Simply by having good energy boundaries, by recognizing when what I felt that was me, or was not me. The ups and downs went away.

This year facing a major health crisis my gremlin of depression returned.

But it was different. The dips would come and go in hours rather than days or weeks. Then return a couple days later. While in physical pain I didn’t have as good of energy boundaries. I was harder to feel positive. I had to be more vigilant with my practices. In truth, I’d been able to get lazy about them. Not anymore.

The lows feel like a lack of inspiration, hope, or passion for anything. My body’s limits had me feeling instantly old, as if decades passed in the blink of an eye. My brain was comforted, ironically, in knowing it had to do with my health combined with what was happening on the planet.

The hard part was that this time there were no natural ups. Just returning to even keel, putting the car in neutral. There was peace in the neutral space but not the inspiration I longed for.

I’m a glass half-full person. There has always been an up.

Knowing this made me look for what was blocking me. What belief had I bought into, that was in the way of me having hope, inspiration, possibilities? I noticed I’d been hooked by the world shouting with a bullhorn that I don't have a choice, that I need to fear what’s out there. Normally I reject fear mongers but they’d got under my skin.

How could I reclaim my power, lift my vibration without burying my head in the sand?

To refill my cup, to reclaim my truth, I returned to what saved me in the past. I practiced energy tools that moved those false beliefs out of my energy field. If you need some of this right now, here’s the replay of an Energy Healing for Apocalyptic Times free guided visualization I led a few weeks ago.

Self-healing is where I always start. We need others, but we have to find the power within, to kick out the gremlins, minute-by-minute, day-by-day.

Sharing energy healing with others also lifts me up. Moving energy happens every time I see a client. My work is like sitting mediation for a few hours a day. I’m extremely grateful for it. It helps me get out of neutral and back into optimism.

I lead a self-healing group to keep the energy fresh and present, using tools that clear out gremlins and lift our vibration. If you need some regular support with energy, check it out HERE. New members are welcome to join till October 4th.

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Facing Fear is Tricky https://nataliecutsforth.com/facing-fear-is-tricky/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=facing-fear-is-tricky https://nataliecutsforth.com/facing-fear-is-tricky/#respond Thu, 20 May 2021 16:41:23 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5146 When I was in high school, I decided that if I was afraid to make a decision, to do something unfamiliar or to speak my truth, I needed to walk towards my fear and just do it. The courage was born from my adolescent desire to not feel held back or controlled by an outside […]

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When I was in high school, I decided that if I was afraid to make a decision, to do something unfamiliar or to speak my truth, I needed to walk towards my fear and just do it. The courage was born from my adolescent desire to not feel held back or controlled by an outside force.

My mom had a lot of fear, as a young single mother raising two kids on very little money. She had good reasons, besides being alone with no backup, she grew up with a lot of criticism.

On the bathroom mirror mom had a note to remind herself to surrender her fears to God. Her fear of making a wrong decision was paralyzing at times. So, I made that vow to myself. Walk towards your fears. Don’t give your power to them. It was risky but the alternative made me feel worse.

My vow to face fear has taken on a new meaning this year. I found myself in a health crisis that felt vulnerable, with physical weakness and uncertain in ways I was previously confident. Courage to face my fears was suddenly harder while feeling vulnerable, exhausted, aware that the consequences are bigger.

I squirmed at making decisions outside of my comfort zone, where I have no past experience to reference. I held back when I needed to speak my truth or share emotions afraid the person, I was communicating with, may respond to with intensity, defensiveness, denial or negativity.

Intense emotions or disagreements, expressed by people, felt like more than I could handle. A cannon ball through my solar plexus, overwhelming my nervous system.

But time didn’t stop. Decisions needed to be made, conversations had, fears faced or avoided.

What if I fail?
What if I make a poor decision?
What if I waste money, time, energy I don’t have?
What if I cause harm or make it worse?

Waiting, putting it off, letting the fear compound with procrastination or avoidance was an energy loss. That’s the catch. Risk and allowing vulnerability take energy but reciprocate in a way fear does not.

Letting fear win looks like default decisions, or deciding by not deciding. Doing what you are told even when your inner-guidance says that there is another way. Fear flushes energy down the toilet.

That energy drain is what prods me forward when feeling vulnerable to face my fears. I ask myself, “What have you got to lose?” While weighing the pros and cons with my analytical mind. I ask my heart, my body, my spirit, “What do you need?”

The answer, I need to let all parts of me have a voice in the decision. Listen to my inner-guidance. Surrender to the unknown. Ask for help from humans, angels and God/Goddess/Source. Then take a risk, big or small, vulnerabilities and all.

p.s. yes that is a photo of me in 1986 at 16 years old

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Your Body’s Secrets https://nataliecutsforth.com/your-bodys-secrets/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=your-bodys-secrets https://nataliecutsforth.com/your-bodys-secrets/#respond Mon, 12 Apr 2021 16:21:09 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=5055 Your body tells you when something is wrong with it, right? Empaths become conditioned to feeling so much through the body that often we learn to disassociate from our pain. Alternately, we feel all of the pain in the people or world through our body, and our body holds these secrets too. Your body – hell […]

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Your body tells you when something is wrong with it, right? Empaths become conditioned to feeling so much through the body that often we learn to disassociate from our pain. Alternately, we feel all of the pain in the people or world through our body, and our body holds these secrets too.

Your body – hell bent on self-preservation – is like a stubbornly independent child. It wants to keep playing as blood clots in an open wound, digesting regardless of stomach pain, pushing through a headache to stick with your plans or altering the spine to accommodate a twisted ankle.

It finds workarounds to its limitations. It cushions its wounds. It sends healing cells to the traumatized areas. It gives you a shot of adrenaline. And it avoids sending you signals of its pain, if it believes those signals pose a greater risk to your survival.

As energy sensitives, feeling energy can be traumatic at the cellular level. The body knows that it needs to protect you from overload. A common survival technique for empath’s is for your spirit go out of your body. Your soul hovers above the body so you can continue to do what you need for your life but you feel less of the energy signals the body is reading. This survival technique can keep you from knowing what your body needs, merging the signals of its needs with the sensations of those around you, or muting them.

Yes, the secrets your body holds are many. It bustles around taking care of business without bothering you if at all possible. When its operating as you wish it to, you ignore it for the most part. Doing what you please. When it stops cooperating, you feel betrayed, confused, even angry.

My recent experience with a sudden onset genetic disease and pain revealed shocking secrets my body was holding. Areas of poor circulation in my brain from pass periods of stress. Fractured vertebra that had healed and left scar tissue. I can’t tell you when the injury occurred because I don’t remember being in pain.

As a child and young woman, empathically sensing so much, I spent a lot of time out of my body. It was easier that way. Lots of bumps and bruises resulted as I was not tuned in to where my body began and ended relative to the world around me. My body took the hit. It gathered up secrets from its disregarded pain, physical and energetic.

Over the course of a lifetime your body gets banged up and heals over-and-over again. Sometimes from physical encounters – a car accident that jars the spine, a penny-drop off the monkey bars that fractures a wrist, a fall snowboarding that causes a concussion. Sometimes from your environment – chemicals in the air, water or food that affect organs, cause cancer, stressful experiences that leave lasting scars on the brain or muscles. Sometimes from genetics – the template of DNA its built upon. Sometimes from emotional or psychological injury – verbal or physical abuse, neglect, energetically toxic home or work environments.

Whether you heal consciously or unconsciously, your body holds secret memories of the wounds. These accumulate to a point where you can no longer ignore them. The body determines its survival is more important than protecting you from feeling the pain. The unresolved or traumatic experiences that wounded or altered the course of your life must be atoned for.

Facing your body’s secrets can feel like a trauma in itself. I wondered; how did I not know? Why was I so disassociated from my pain? Your body is your vessel, your temple, the home for our soul on this earth walk. Painful or not, you need to honor it. Let it tells you it’s secrets so that you can heal fully.

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Own Your Inner Asshole https://nataliecutsforth.com/own-your-inner-asshole/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=own-your-inner-asshole https://nataliecutsforth.com/own-your-inner-asshole/#respond Thu, 28 Jan 2021 22:59:35 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=4966 I have a high tolerance for assholes. It took me a pandemic to realize it, but now I know I’m an asshole too. I suppose delayed recognition isn’t surprising. I justified my asshole behavior as being honest or having good boundaries. It’s because I'm psychic and know stuff others don’t, right? Or because I am […]

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I have a high tolerance for assholes. It took me a pandemic to realize it, but now I know I’m an asshole too. I suppose delayed recognition isn’t surprising. I justified my asshole behavior as being honest or having good boundaries. It’s because I'm psychic and know stuff others don’t, right? Or because I am healthily skeptical.  

Once it really hit me, I laughed so hard it brought tears to my eyes. And I’m still laughing at my inner asshole as I write.

My dad used to say that I had a high tolerance for assholes, and guys with big noses, because he is an asshole and has a big nose, he’d say. It’s true. I can put up with some of the best assholes out there. I became an expert when I worked in the technology industry for 22 years, where tolerating people who lack empathy or social filters is necessisary for survival.

Recently I had a session with a medical intuitive. During the call I found myself bluntly expressing my disagreement with some of the beliefs that she stated. I felt so stubborn and certain. I even said “I’m not trying to be an asshole, but I don’t agree.” For a couple days I found myself thinking my asshole thoughts, holding on to my stubborn beliefs. Then it hit me, “Seriously Natalie, you're being an asshole. You do this for a living so you are being arrogant, close minded and self-justifying. Stop it!”

Then I started laughing. And I’ve laughed a lot about it since. What a relief to "own" my inner asshole. At the time, my boyfriend played a funny song for me by Harley Poe. It helped me laugh even more. Morons Idiots and Assholes, which one are you? May be a bit of all three? Don’t listen to it if you are easily offended.

As empaths we can be overly sensitive to what someone else wants and needs -- sweet and pleasing to keep the peace. Saying or doing what makes another person feel good even if it’s not our truth. At the same time our inner asshole feels irritated or arrogant about what we know that others can’t see. Or what we have had to filter out to fit in.

It seems the craziness in the world has brought out a lot of our inner assholes. Judgments, certainty we know truth and other people are wrong or just stupid. Less of a filter. Maybe because filters are usually let down more at home and we are all spending more time in our homes.

My friend, we’ll call her Lenny, got a birthday gift recently from her husband and didn’t respond appropriately. Instead, with no filter, her true feelings showed. The look on her face said it all, “Really? Pink candles, I hate pink.” Her kids called her out on it, “Mom, you’re supposed to at least pretend like you like it.” But she just couldn’t. And I guess that’s what this time is bringing up for so many of us.

For empaths it is harder now than ever to have a filter between what you feel, “see” or “know” and how you express it. It’s harder to laugh at yourself, because the world is so serious right now. On top of that, if you have a habit of sensing and taking care of others needs before your own, it’s hard to feel lovable when your inner asshole shows up for everyone to see.

We all have one, so hopefully owning your inner asshole helps you laugh and release the stubborn energy like it did for me. As the old joke goes. “What was the last thing the mosquito saw when it hit the windshield? Its own asshole.” I’m just now getting the irony.

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That Irritating Life Lesson — the Gift that Keeps Giving https://nataliecutsforth.com/that-irritating-life-lesson-the-gift-that-keeps-giving/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=that-irritating-life-lesson-the-gift-that-keeps-giving https://nataliecutsforth.com/that-irritating-life-lesson-the-gift-that-keeps-giving/#respond Wed, 18 Nov 2020 19:20:19 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=4829 Avoiding conflict is a one of my lifelong lessons. In fact, I’ve learned to have clear energetic boundaries so I can avoid conflict. But as much as I try, I still encounter places in my most intimate relationships where I have to face my discomfort. The closer someone is to me, the harder it is […]

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Avoiding conflict is a one of my lifelong lessons. In fact, I’ve learned to have clear energetic boundaries so I can avoid conflict. But as much as I try, I still encounter places in my most intimate relationships where I have to face my discomfort.

The closer someone is to me, the harder it is to tell them if something they have done doesn’t work for me. I can’t say exactly why conflict feels so risky but that’s the way cruxes work. Those life lessons that itch at your blind spots, hiding in plain sight only to keep coming back to invite growth in different ways.

I have a friend who enjoys a good scrap and has fun with conflict. For me, even witnessing it between people when I’m not part of the energetic fist fight can leave me feeling tense, exhausted, my stomach icky. So, I avoid it if I can.

I’ve faced layers of this avoidance head-on over my lifetime, getting better and better at directly addressing conflicts in many areas of my life but then another lesson pops up and I get to look at it again from that fresh and annoying angle. It’s the gift that keeps giving.

Avoidance of conflict isn’t in my best interest when I allow myself to get whacked or depleted by someone’s energy repeatedly because I don’t tell them how I feel or that it is not ok.

Recently when facing one of these moments I asked myself, “what is the worst thing that could happen if I told the person they hurt me, whacked me or dumped on me with their energy?” They could leave my life. They could be angry with me. They could turn it around and make it my fault. The worst of these possibilities for me is their anger.

Avoiding conflict is avoiding anger. My anger. Their anger. When anger isn’t addressed directly it gets sticky, icky, whacky, hurtful. This isn’t a psychology lesson but an energy lesson I’m talking about.

When anger comes up I always look for where my boundaries have been crossed. Many people have told me I have some of the clearest boundaries. They don’t know it’s because it’s my crux, my unsolved question, the point of difficulty I faced thoughout my life and truly the pivotal point which if resolved can shift me into an entirely different perspective or experience.

I see a lot of cruxes when reading clients. Lifelong lessons that keep coming back in a different form. It’s my biggest joy to find the root of a crux and help someone see and heal the heart of the issue. We all have soul specific challenges to walk through in life. The goal is not to eliminate these gifts that keep teaching us, but to learn from them and shift the pattern. They are our soul teachers.

People have lifetime cruxes around relationships, money, illness or a particular pattern of wounding. I have more than one. They all are in the relationship area. The one on my radar at the moment is my pattern of avoiding conflict.

I’m the peace maker. Heck, my younger self was a participant in a multi-national peace education workshop. I believe inner peace is more important than happiness. It is sustainable. I’ve learned to make peace within myself and not run away when I am in the face of conflict. I’ve learned to have clear boundaries. But I’m still working on the sticky aspect of saying the words that call a loved one to account when I feel hurt, disrespected or dumped on by their energy.

So, I breathe into this part of my humanity. I ask my soul, my spirit guides and my mentors for guidance on facing this crux. And I try to balance the part of me that is irritated by it with the part of me that is grateful that I know it’s actually happening so I can open to the next step in the lesson.

p.s. Give peace a chance 😉

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3 Steps to Clear Your Mind of Other People’s Energy https://nataliecutsforth.com/3-steps-to-clear-your-mind-of-other-peoples-energy/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=3-steps-to-clear-your-mind-of-other-peoples-energy https://nataliecutsforth.com/3-steps-to-clear-your-mind-of-other-peoples-energy/#respond Mon, 19 Oct 2020 22:15:38 +0000 https://nataliecutsforth.com/?p=4812 There is a huge amount of competition for your attention. Drama sells. Headlines hook energy. Artificial Intelligence is programmed to give you more of what you click. People near and far are trying to control or alter how you see things. All of this makes it hard to get clear for yourself.Now more than ever, you […]

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There is a huge amount of competition for your attention. Drama sells. Headlines hook energy. Artificial Intelligence is programmed to give you more of what you click. People near and far are trying to control or alter how you see things. All of this makes it hard to get clear for yourself.

Now more than ever, you need to sift through piles of opinions and data to see clearly. That means, you go beyond your analytical mind and use your sixth sense to see the energy behind the data stream.

We all have “pictures” or images of what we believe to be true, filtering our view point. Some of them we created from life experiences and others were given to us by people in our lives.

Your psychic mind – we all have it – gets congested and exhausted from all the pictures of other people’s beliefs and the energy that accompanies them. Don’t let the word psychic scare you, psychic simply means the part of your mind that senses energy that isn’t detected with the five physical senses.

Clearing your head of other people’s pictures is key to navigating all the distortions of truth and opinions in the world. Its essential to do when making big decisions, to ensure your choosing based on your truth, not those competing for your attention.

Three Steps to Clear Your Psychic Space:
  1. Close your eyes and bring your attention to the center of your head, where you have your analytical and intuitive mind. Does it feel: light, heavy, foggy, clear, tense, relaxed?
  2. Is someone on your mind now or is there someone who frequently is in your thoughts? This could be a person you personally know or a public figure. If so, imagine you are a child blowing bubbles. Put each person in a bubble and watch them float back to themselves. Then pop the bubble over their head. This clears them out of your head.
  3. Now imagine a big fan in front of your third eye that is blowing it clean of any debris from reading the news, looking at social media, listening to a friend or loved one’s opinion. Let the fan do the work of clearing your psychic space so that all that is left is your information, your truth, your clarity!
Once you’ve cleared your mind of other people’s pictures you can also ask your spirit guide or higher power to clear out any pictures you have that are outdated or were given to you in the past and are preventing you from seeing clearly.

The more regularly you clear you mind of other people’s energy the easier it becomes to notice when your sixth sense is being blocked or altered by an outside source. After you’ve done the exercise above, go back to step one and notice how your center of head feels? Hopefully lighter!

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