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Vampire Energy

Natalie —  October 9, 2010 — 6 Comments

The vampire is a human who feeds off the life force of other humans.  It needs the blood of another human to survive.  It cannot generate its own energy or be satisfied by the energy sources other human’s use to fuel their life.  In the myth, once bitten by a vampire you become one. The change is not physically noticeable but occurs on a deep cellular level.  The weakness one experiences from having their life force drained is so powerful, the only path to replenish it is through drawing on the energy of another who has not been tainted by the same form of depletion.

Energy vampires are not a myth, which is why we are so curious about the mythical vampire.  After spending time with an energy sucker you feel drained, exhausted, depleted.  Yet while you were with them you felt magnetically attracted in a way that was hard to resist.  The vampire is particularly seductive because we feel the vacuum within the person and want to help them heal.  This archetype is played out on TV and in movies, using stories that intertwine vampires with romance, love that is secretly destructive.  The stories connect us to the familiar experience of being in a partnership that is charismatically hard to break free from but depleting, one that steals energy from us.  In relationship with a vampire we gain a sense of being needed.  The power to fulfill the need of another, provide life sustaining energy, is exceptionally seductive. 

From the perspective of our energetic body, the vampire often taps into our third chakra (solar plexus) the center of our personal power.  This cord plugged into our belly siphons off energy for the vampire’s use.  There are many past experiences that can make us receptive to vampirism, such as wounds to our sense of empowerment.  It may be a belief that to love one must give of themselves limitlessly.  It may be we had a parent that was a vampire and we allowed them to use our life force to insure that our needs would be met.  Or we were taught that “no” was not an acceptable answer when our boundaries were being violated.  The vampire is a very dynamic persona.  In order to get agreement from those who allow them to consume, they must quietly create a tantalizing allure to ensnare their prey.  Or charismatically demand the attention of a room being interesting but not at all interested in the thoughts or experiences of others.

As we become aware of the energy vampires in our lives or the way we vampire the energy of others, we can reframe our boundaries and fill our own cup without taking energy from others.  The vampire will not die if we refuse to give them our energy.  Conversely, if you notice your neediness responded to as a form of vampirism; know that you will not die if others withhold their energy.  The death is mythical.  The vampire archetype will find another energy source or learn a healthier way to sustain itself.  By applying new relationship skills and owning our energetic space we give others and ourselves the gift of reciprocal energy exchange. 

In the moment when you feel depleted by a certain interaction or you sense a person in your life is worn out from your contact, pause.  This awareness provides an opportunity to practice a new response.    Visualize a protection rose the size of a STOP sign between you and the vampire.  See the stem of the rose rooted deeply into the earth.  And ask the rose to be a filter between your two energies, only allowing that which is neutral and positive to come your way.  On the otherhand, if you notice yourself pulling on another’s energy, activate the “golden sun” tool.  Imagine a large ball of golden light just above your head, larger than your aura bubble.  In the center of that golden sun see a magnet that draws your energy back to you from any place, person or project where you have left it.  See the golden sun fill with your own vibration. When it is full, reach up, pop it and watch it run down into your body like honey, filling up every cell of your physical body then overflow into every atom of your aura.  Experience yourself resting in the sense of being full, no longer needing to consume energy from another.  When you are full and have activated healthy boundaries the vampire archetype is neutralized.

To See and Be Seen

Natalie —  April 7, 2010 — Leave a comment

When someone sees you for who you truly are it feels like a ray of morning sun on your face.  We all want to be seen and accepted without judgment.  It is rare to find a person who can see us for who we are without their projections intruding into that view.  As infants we receive a form of unconditional love from our mother.  We have yet to do anything intentionally to warrant her disapproval.  We are her creation and she is proud of that.  As we grow we explore and test the environment we are in.  Curiosity drives us to take risks that may not receive the approval of our care takers.   We begin to understand and be shaped by the responses of those whose approval we desire. 

Inside is the authentic Self that yearns to be loved and approved of by those we desire to share love with.  We can connect with others in a real and loving way by striving to be more neutral to the aspects of their character that are different from our own.  That does not mean denying the existence of our judgments.  It means looking at what formed them.  They are an indicator of an area where healing is available to us.  The more we take responsibility for our own projections onto others, the greater freedom we gain.  Less of what they do disturbs us.  We are able to look at it and be grateful for the reminder of our own humanity.  We are able to have more compassion on ourselves. 

Neutrality is one of the most powerful tools available to our intuitive truth.  Without it we run the risk of not seeing clearly.  When we carry emotions like guilt, obligation, judgment, pain or fear we adjust our information in response to a projected desirable outcome.  Neutrality is about taking the energetic charge off of a perception, releasing the need to control others.  Letting it be okay for them to be where they are at.  Neutrality does not assume a lack of compassion or empathy.  It doesn’t prevent you from having opinions about issues or experiences.  What it does is free you from your resistance and blocks to seeing the truth.  By giving others the gift of your neutrality you are able to see them and hopefully they will be able to come closer to truly seeing you.  Namaste (the light in me sees the light in you).

Love Shine

Natalie —  February 12, 2010 — 2 Comments

Love relationships are on most people’s mind this week whether in a romantic relationship or not.  The sense that we should do something romantic for our partner and make it special can feel somewhat daunting.  It is a holiday fraught with demand energy from social expectations to personal concepts of what it means to demonstrate your love.  Not to mention all the baggage of what you did seemingly right or wrong on this holiday in the past.  How can you use your intuition to act on loves call in a creative and opening way?  Whether you are in a comfortable loving partnership where each of you regularly expresses your needs and desires and you both try to listen and respond with neutrality or you are in a relationship that holds the tension of unmet needs and desires, your intuitive truth can expand the experience to a deeper sharing of love. 

This idea of celebrating love comes with the intention of pleasing your partner, showing them that you appreciate and value them in a form that they respond to rather than the form that you respond to… yes those 5 Love Languages everyone is whispering about.  Use your skills of observation to see what puts that glimmer in your lover’s eye.  Does she just want to kiss you when you make her dinner, rub her shoulders or encourage one of her dreams?  Does he relax a little deeper when you really pay attention to his play-by-play recount of the problem he solved at work or bring home his favorite flavor of ice cream?  We want to please our partner because when their love light shines we get to feel its glow.  It really is selfish but in a good way.  True love grows through everyday acts of kindness, acceptance and consciousness of our partners needs.