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People often ask me why I don’t “read” the future in my psychic work. I have a canned answer about us all having “freewill” that allows us to change our future. I believe this, but there is more. Thinking we can know what we “should” do or what is coming next is a way to try to feel in control and limits healthy possibilities.

Whenever I want to know what’s next, I see it as me trying to assure myself, be in control of the unknown. I wonder, “Why don’t I feel safe with the mystery of not knowing?” I may be afraid of failure if I make a poor choice, or attached to a specific outcome that I think will result in my happiness. My attachment to an outcome has narrowed the possibility of what can make me happy because when an alternate experience unfolds, I may not enjoy it even if it’s better than what I thought I wanted!

Believing we can know the future allows us to feel we are in control but it is actually a way of giving our power away.  I think of the family who has planned a vacation to Hawaii.  The reservations for hotel, flights, and specific tours are all scheduled in advance. The kids are going to be in surf lessons while the parents are on a dolphin sighting boat tour.  But then something doesn’t turn out as planned. The tour bus taking them to the beach gets a flat. They are waiting on the side of the road for hours; sweating, hungry, feeling like their vacation is ruined.  Disappointed because what they had envisioned for their holiday isn’t happening. 

Beside them another couple is talking with two locals in a old truck that stopped to see if the bus driver needed help.  The other couple accepts the invitation to walk down the road to a few houses and sit on the porch in the shade with coconut water, enjoying conversation. They make new friends and give up on the tour bus all together, walking a bit farther to a local’s beach to explore the tide pools. They have a better day than they ever imagined because they are open to the possibility of what the universe offers rather than staying attached to their vision of how the future should have looked.

Like the more adventurous couple, we claim our power by trusting our intuition to guide us in the moment. There’s only power in the present.  In the present we have options, choices that direct our life toward either fulfillment or disappointment.  Disappointment is rooted in wanting something that doesn’t happen.

Making plans and having dreams are some of the best parts of being human.  Allowing our intuition to be our life tour guide is where the magic comes in.  When we surrender to the mystery, our journey’s take the most remarkable turns! I have no interest in knowing the future because I want to be surprised by life’s infinite possibility.

NASA Photo of Eagle Nebula

NASA Photo of Eagle Nebula

Mystery is awesome.  It contains the seed of life!  The power of the unknown gifts us joyful surprise, anticipation and passion, if we allow it.  Most often we contract in the face of the unknown.  Our body tenses up for fear of being out of control, the uncertainties of no guaranteed outcome, the fear of disappointment.  But if we relax into trust, our very being is able to flow with the mystery and we heighten our capacity to receive, our experience of excitement, celebration and noticing life’s miracles.

Every moment we are in the process of creation.  We are creating our lives through our thoughts, actions and unconscious beliefs.  To create with the most power we must surrender to the mystery, let go of the specific form our creation is required to take in order to please us.  In our society outcomes are often forced to meet a specific agenda, scheduled, pre-selected in detail, like a travel itinerary. But when we allow room for the mystery, the outcome while unpredictable has more juice and life to it. Magic happens!

At the New Year most of us reflect on what we have accomplished in the past year and identify what we would like to experience in the coming year.  How do we come to a strong inner-knowing that our intentions, the visions of what we want to create in our life, are coming to us?

To clear the path for this level of trust, I find myself navigating a cacophony of thoughts and feelings.  Observing what is supporting or in the way of my freedom to receive.  Where I am judging others and myself?  Where I am giving away my power?  Where I am withholding from myself or choosing fantasy over the truth of what is? Where I am failing to see the vastness of options before me because my sight is focused on what I lack rather than what I have?  Where I am allowing the wants, needs and demands of others to override my wants, needs and self-care?

Where I am in avoidance of my feelings because noticing them doesn’t feel good?  Where do I choose to check-out rather than check-in with myself?  Where do I see not getting what my heart desires as some failure on my part?  Where am I at peace and where am I unsettled?  Where am I in resistance to things that are good for me?  Where do I fail to surrender because I want it my way?!? Where do I feel angry at another or judge them without acknowledging my anger at myself and self-judgment?  Where is it I crave escape and allow it to dominate my free time?

Where do I try and fail and try and succeed and keep pushing my edge to expand past the discomfort?  Where do I have courage without noticing it and fearlessly press into the vast unknown? Where do I take risks and feel empowered?  Where do I light a fire to transform energy, warm the hearth, or light the path?  Where do I see the non-physical universe and witness another soul’s journey?  Where do I connect with another?  Where do I wake up and realize I was never sleeping?  Where do I feel alive?

These questions are meant to shed away the layers between my expectations and the fruition of my desires. I trust that my visions will manifest in my life. Why?  I have seen it happen countless times.  I feel them coming.  I feel the joy and it feels as if they are already the truth of my experience even though they haven’t yet taken physical form.  I don’t know what form they will arrive in or when. That’s the mystery.  Yet I trust their arrival, as reliable as the seasons change.  The more I take actions to show the universe my intent, that I’m willing to receive with full surrender.  The more my experiences are better than I ever would have imagined.

How many times have you tried something that didn’t work out the way you thought it would? A relationship, job, diet, investment, project or goal that failed. We assume that whatever we tried was a failure because it didn’t end with results that we had in mind when we started.  This translates into distrust of our intuition. 

When we say yes to something and head down the path, our yes quickly becomes defined by our projections of how it is supposed to turn out or take form.  It feels good to have a plan and move toward what feels purposeful, a direction that will help us achieve something greater than we are now.

The issue with most failed plans is that somewhere along the way a new piece of information showed up, in our environment or in our intuitive awareness, but we ignored it because we were already climbing the mountain and we wanted to summit the peak.  We had to summit the peak because it was our destination, and by god we were going to do it, even if there was ice forming on our path or lightening striking at higher elevations.  This is commitment and discipline, right?

We had such an attachment to the end result that we couldn’t give up or change our plan.  We were unwilling to stop and say, “Hey this journey has been fun, but I see that it’s time to put it on hold, take a different trail, or go back down to lower ground and try it again another day.”  We got fixated on the summit and forgot to be flexible.

It’s in our attachment to the outcome that we lose perspective on why we are putting one foot in front of the other.  Are we walking the trail without noticing the beauty around us, our head filled with future plans? 

True success is born from staying in-tune with what we are experiencing this very moment.  Are we self-critical, focused on what we are not doing or wish we had done?  Are we afraid of what others will think if we do not achieve what looks like success?  Are we so attached to making it to the summit that we are unwilling to respond to new insights? 

When we’re blinded by focus on the destination rather than the journey, we ignore signals from our intuition and environment.  We encounter obstacles that keep us from reaching our goal or make it to the summit and discover it is less satisfying than what we’d imagined. 

The purpose of every intuitive yes is to point us in a direction, so that we will intersect with valuable life experiences.  There is no failure in not reaching a certain preconceived point on the path.  The only true failure is in not giving ourselves the grace to change course as we become aware it’s needed.  It is only in the present, that we can align with and hear our inner-guidance, feeling a sense of success regardless of outcome.

How Creation Energy Works

Natalie —  January 13, 2011 — Leave a comment

Photo by Patrick Yuen

There are many ways we contribute to the content of what is manifesting in our lives: thoughts, beliefs, emotions, actions, inaction, words spoken to others and requests to our higher power. With each of these we are adding possible outcomes to our future experience.  It is not the circumstances we are in so much as the beliefs, thoughts and feelings we have about them that affect our happiness.  We are much more powerful than we give ourselves credit for in the creation of our life. 

Last spring I saw Esther Hicks speak in Colorado and I was reminded of a potent truth in the concepts presented through her channeling Abraham.  The law of attraction or manifestation, from the perspective of Spirit is uninhibited by the perceived limitations of the Physical. It is all about matching energetic vibrations.  Abraham calls it the Vortex, an energy space in the future that we are filling non-stop through our emotions both positive and negative.  The Vortex doesn’t have an opinion about what vibrations we put into it.  It is there, as I see it, like a master soup bowl that continues to simmer as we add ingredients simply by directing our energy.  The resulting flavor is a combination of all that has been added.  This perpetual pot of soup that sits on the stove of our lives continues to change form based on what we are adding to the pot.  On a bad day we might put in a heaping spoonful of doubt or fear, on a good day we might add clarity and love.  The next week, month or year, when we finally get around to tasting the concoction that has been brewing in our future, we may be appalled by it, “Hey Universe/God, this isn’t what I ordered!”  Unfortunately we did order it.  We just weren’t paying attention to how our thoughts, feelings, actions and words were contributing to our future dining experience.

This isn’t to suggest we should make matters worse with self-criticism or try to control the full spectrum of emotions.   The intent is to bring to consciousness our power to contribute to a more fulfilling, juicy meal.  One of those dining experiences that you hope will never end, where each bite is taken slowly with pleasure.  What hit home with me about the Abraham message, was that when we are in those moments of low biorhythm or in a state of negativity, we can stop adding ingredients to the soup by taking a break from thinking about what it is we “wish” were true and what we “want” in the future, instead just do life.  Wash the dishes, do the laundry, go grocery shopping, head to the gym and don’t engage in the creation process.  When we are in an unconstructive emotion it is easy to get caught up in the struggle around changing our experience and in doing so inadvertently add vibrations to our Vortex of future experiences that we don’t want, rather than those we desire.

A desire to know the future is deeply ingrained in human nature. Seeing the future would eliminate doubt and simplify decision making. If I do this it will be a great day, a happy relationship, a rewarding job. If I don’t do that it will cause me a lot of trouble down the road. The Magic 8 Ball is a fun cultural example of this type of validation seeking. Wouldn’t it be great if someone or something would tell us that we are on the right path; that we are not going to have our heart broken or buy the lemon of a car? The truth is we are capable of doing this for ourselves. Our intuition is available to us to consult in every situation. Thanks to free will we have the choice to follow it or ignore it. This is personal empowerment versus being a victim.

There are often factors that divert us from heeding the advice of our intuition. We worry about what others think and feel. We desire approval from our loved ones and tend to do for others before taking care of ourselves. Acting on our intuition can cause us to feel awkward if our actions are challenged by someone who doesn’t think it’s a wise choice or the choice isn’t what they want us to do. We may not act on our intuition because we feel that we can see the future by choosing a familiar path with a reliable outcome. We have more control. Although the predictable path is not taking us to a place we want to be, it’s less risky.

The next time you are presented with a decision in your life and desire a different outcome than you have experienced in the past, pause to check in with your intuitive truth. A great way to do this is to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and try one of these exercises:

  1. See yourself taking the path. How does your body feel? Relief, tension. If you feel tension is it rooted in fear of the unknown or a sense that this is not the correct path for you? Then visualize yourself taking the alternate path. How does your body feel? At peace, uneasy? Listen. 
  2. Visualize a rose to the right of you and one to the left. Ask your intuition, “What is my yes?” and see which rose comes closer to you. Then ask, “What is my no?” Notice which rose moves. Now ask a question regarding your decision and see the rose as a symbol of your inner yes/no.

The more often you directly seek your intuition the stronger it becomes and easier to access. Not knowing what will happen in the future is a part of the wondrous surprise of life. Many paths we take which result in great opportunity come with challenges along the way. If we had seen the hard parts in advance, would we have taken the risk or avoided it altogether?