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When someone sees you for who you truly are it feels like a ray of morning sun on your face. We all want to be seen and accepted without judgment. It is rare to find a person who can see us for who we are without their projections intruding into that view. As infants we receive a form of unconditional love from our mother. We have yet to do anything intentionally to warrant her disapproval. We are her creation and she is proud of that. As we grow we explore and test the environment we are in. Curiosity drives us to take risks that may not receive the approval of our care takers. We begin to understand and be shaped by the responses of those whose approval we desire.
Inside is the authentic Self that yearns to be loved and approved of by those we desire to share love with. We can connect with others in a real and loving way by striving to be more neutral to the aspects of their character that are different from our own. That does not mean denying the existence of our judgments. It means looking at what formed them. They are an indicator of an area where healing is available to us. The more we take responsibility for our own projections onto others, the greater freedom we gain. Less of what they do disturbs us. We are able to look at it and be grateful for the reminder of our own humanity. We are able to have more compassion on ourselves.
Neutrality is one of the most powerful tools available to our intuitive truth. Without it we run the risk of not seeing clearly. When we carry emotions like guilt, obligation, judgment, pain or fear we adjust our information in response to a projected desirable outcome. Neutrality is about taking the energetic charge off of a perception, releasing the need to control others. Letting it be okay for them to be where they are at. Neutrality does not assume a lack of compassion or empathy. It doesn’t prevent you from having opinions about issues or experiences. What it does is free you from your resistance and blocks to seeing the truth. By giving others the gift of your neutrality you are able to see them and hopefully they will be able to come closer to truly seeing you. Namaste (the light in me sees the light in you).
If you are one of those people who has a natural intuitive strength you may have found over the years that your insights are not always well received. You see something and say it to a person involved in the perception and they either invalidate it with denial or even react harshly lashing out at the suggestion. This happens because the person you are sharing your intuitive truth (it) with is not ready to hear it or they feel vulnerable that you see something they haven’t seen themselves. Alternately they may have seen it themselves but not be ready for you to see it. The intuitive person’s intent is to be helpful or possibly we are purely unconscious of the fact that we are reading information that is not overtly available. When we are not aware of our boundaries in reading we often violate other people’s comfort zones by offering up friendly insights. This can result in receiving a lot of negative response to our intuition; verbal or energetic whacks warning us that we’ve crossed an invisible line.
When is it okay to share intuitive information that is related to another person? My truth is that we need to ask the person permission to provide the insight before volunteering it. By acknowledging another’s boundaries and giving them the option to say “no thanks” we will reduce negative feedback from sharing our intuitive truth. Before you speak, consider what the impact may be in your relationship with that person. Whenever you share an insight it is important to release attachment to the outcome. If you can’t do so, the communication will be delivered with a hook. That energy will make for a very sticky situation that feels like judgment or control to the receiver. No fun. The more we learn to have our intuitive truth for ourselves and release that which drives us use it on behalf of others, the more peaceful our lives become.
